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| Tue, 07-08-2008 - 3:49pm |
I've got a little extended family thing I need some opinions on... My cousin (who I'm not all that close to and is about 13 years younger than I am) is getting married in August. I got an invitation to his fiance's bridal shower yesterday. Here's the thing, it's a two hour drive (100 miles one way) away. That wouldn't be such a big deal but we're making the same drive each of the FOUR weekends following that. First to take Evan to camp, next to take Megan to the same camp, third to pick them both up, and fourth to go to the actual wedding. The shower, camp, and wedding are literally within 15 minutes of each other but all take place on different weekends.
I've met the bride once and she is VERY nice. My mom is helping with some of the planning and would also be at the shower. I wouldn't know more than four people there. The bride had a tough childhood (Mom left the family Christmas Eve Day when she was 13), works three jobs, is working on selling her house so she can move in with my cousin, and is the type that really needs approval from others. She could really use the support and I'm sure it would make her feel like part of the family to know that people are coming from so far away. 5 weekends in a row is A LOT. Oh, and the Thursday after the wedding is the kids' first day of school. I do a lot for my mom's family and I'm beginning to resent everyone assuming that I'll always be at family functions. I'm supposed drag my family for two hours one way so we're always there but no one will make the effort to come here. There is no way in h*** that any member of my family would drive to my house 5 weekends in a row.
I really need some unbiased opinions here. Please help!

Laura mom to Gabrielle
I think it's perfectly acceptable to not go but to just send a gift.