Public vs. Catholic Junior High (long)
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|Wed, 07-09-2003 - 12:42pm|
I posted this on the "Surviving Middle School" Board in early May...I thought we had made the decision to move to the Public School, BUT now my DD is REALLY having a hard time leaving her school...and I am too! I'd appreciate any insites.
I've been a 'lurker' for years here...now I need help and advice. My DD is now going into 6th grade at a Catholic School. My DS is a 7th grader who moved to the Public School for Jr. High and he loves it! My DD is having a hard time deciding if she should stay at the Catholic School where she's been since 1st grade or if she should go to the Jr. High w/ her brother. She also has a little sister who is going into 4th grade at the Catholic School.
The problem is that she has been a cheerleader for the last 2 years and just made Captain. She is VERY popular and well liked... BUT the Public school offers soooooo much more as far as clubs, sports and other activities. She would qualify for 2 AP classes also (Science and Social Studies/Geo).
She was all set to go until she started telling her friends and they are trying to convince her to stay with them. They have all been close for the last 3 years and I know it will be hard for her at first,but she does make friends easily.
She spent the day at the Public School shadowing another student (6th grader)and she really enjoyed it.
This is all complicated by the fact that her very, very best friend for the last 3 years suddenly dumped her in March for another 5th grader in the neighborhood. I know that kids change friends at this age but the problem is that at the end of the school year they were BRUTAL to her on the bus. Telling her where she had to sit (with the little kids), giving everyone nicknames-nice ones (except hers was Hippo) and just in general ignoring her and making her miserable. The old best friend even told the new best friend all of my daughters secrets. It got so bad that either my DH or I were driving her to school in the morning. The last week of school she finally stood up to them and told them that she did not have to listen to their rules and she could sit where she wanted to. And she did. I was proud of her for that.
So now - beginning of July - she is forgetting the abuse and only thinking of the fun stuff. I'm afraid that if we (my DH and I) make the decision to stay at the Catholic School the meanness will start up again in the Fall and my DD wil regret not taking the chance on a new beginning.
I really don't know what else to do to help her make this decision. I thought she had it made to move to the public Jr. High and when I came home this afternoon she told me she did not want to move because she wanted to cheer on the same team as her little sister, she made Captain and because she would miss her friends.
I'm just afraid that she is going to miss out on a lot of other opportunities if she stays. (Like AP classes, Computer Club, Band, etc...) I also think that the Public School prepares this kids better for High School. Yet there is something to be said for the smallness of the Private school. I know all the parents, teachers, etc.
HELP!!!! I live in Orland Park, IL if anyone is from this area.