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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 9:45am

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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 10:21am

Good Morning ladies,


My biggest issues that I am facing with my tween is GIRLS...... AND HIS ATTITUDE.


I"ll start with the girls.

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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 10:47am

I have to say that I am pretty lucky right now and we don't really have too many issues, or to be honest they are MY issues, not hers. LOL


She does not have the bad attitude, she's been in

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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 12:42pm

If it makes you feel better at all Jordyn will still come in a sleep with me once in a while. She used to about every other weekend before I married DH. Now the only time she does if he leaves for training for a few nights or whatever on the weekends, then she will ask to come in and stay with me. I don't really mind, but I know DH doesn't like it.

We really aren't having any issues yet, at least not related to age or anything. We are having normal step-family/blending/moving issues, but that is about it. She's usually a pretty darn good kid. She does get into a funk sometimes. This weekend she was in one, she doesn't have her Michigan friends to hang out with like she has all summer, she doesn't have her old gymnastics friends because she changed gyms, she's not super close with her new gymnastics friends quite yet, still getting comfortable with them, and all the neighborhood friends she has are all gone. So I think she was just in a funk, not sure of her place all of a sudden again. Hopefully with the move and the school year starting soon that will help things. Friends are such a big part of her life now.

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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 3:43pm

What a timely topic! My big issue is power struggles. Pretty much, it comes down to whether she's going to follow her family or follow her friends. Her friends are trying pretty hard, but mom & dad are not giving up without a fight. Things are getting pretty nasty around here lately! DD11 is currently grounded from computer use for "Googling" for porno web cams with her best friend (also a girl, soon to turn 11). And she's hotly negotiating for us to please-please-please let her go to jr. high this fall with her hometown friends. This would be the same group of friends who are influencing her to search for porn on the web.

I'm not sure how I'm really handling it. This is like a brick hitting me squarely between the eyes. She's only 11!!!! Going into 6th grade! That was still elementary school in my day. In fact, my jr. high was just 8th & 9th grades. I don't remember my mother having to keep me away from any "friend" until I was about 15. I know that some day we'll have these power struggles and it will be what we have to do as she's becoming independent. But she is NOT ready for independence! >:(

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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 4:23pm

The only thing that we've had aproblem with is her attitude,or should I say,her attitude towards my dh..My husband has been in her life since she was 13mo. old,her bio dad just started coming around last year.She wants him in her life,so I'm allowing it..Well,ever since she thinks that she doesn't have to listen to anything my dh tells her to do!We've gotten onto her &onto her about it.I've finally told her&her bio dad that if the attitude against Trevor doesn't stop,The visit WILL be put to an end!We do not recieve child supporty&he has no rights to her,so I'm being nice by letting him see her.Though legally,I don't have to..It's gotten alot better since I laid down the law,but her "tude"really gets me..


She used to be this sweet,considerate child..While she's still that one moment,the next she's yelling at her sister,or just being plain rude&disrespectful!!Sometimes,I feel that my precious child,has been replaced by an alien.LOL.And to think,it's gonna get worse before it gets better..Oh,joy!!

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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 8:35pm

Dawn,


I could have wrote your post, minus the dad issue.

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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 10:14pm
you 2 are not alone. For the life of me I do not know where my precious little pumpkin went. It's all about her and getting her needs met. I am going crazy, really I am. That kid has no idea how good she has it.


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Registered: 09-26-2003
Mon, 07-24-2006 - 10:34pm
SO sounds like he is big into procrastination then!

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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 10:36pm
Sounds like you are picking and chosing your battles!

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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 10:38pm
I was wondering how things were going with the whole blended family issue!

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