QOTW: "Preassures"

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QOTW: "Preassures"
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Mon, 01-29-2007 - 7:51am


Kids are pressured on many fronts - weight, looks, clothes, financial status, sexuality (both prefernce and in relation to dating), mature themes in tv/video/movie.


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Mon, 01-29-2007 - 8:55am

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Not really. Connor is very much his own person. He has his own style of dress, hair style (long is in..he keeps his really short), isn't interested in dating anyone at this point in time and doesnt' feel pressured to do so, and he doesn't really watch much in the way of tv (maybe one hour per week regular tv or one dvd per week).

His biggest influences are the people in our church that he surrounds himself with. Very positive influcences.

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Mon, 01-29-2007 - 9:42am

I wouldn't call it 'pressure' but influence is definitely the right word! My kids attend a new school that's 7th-10th grade so my 7th grader has had a real eye-opening to older girls fashion choices. It seems like a daily fight over what she wears...when did dressing like a slut become necessary to attend daily classes?

WHile we seem to have won the battle over wearing too much black, I can say she's NOT following the fad of piercing her face...yes we've discussed THIS one before...I am STILL amazed that the school actually allows this and the majority of kids have SOMETHING pierced on thier face!

Both of my kids are very strong so luckily they aren't too influenced by others, but this 'picking a style/identity' has been much more intense with my daughter than it EVER was with my son!

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Mon, 01-29-2007 - 9:53am

Hmmm, I don't see Sami under too much peer pressure.

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Mon, 01-29-2007 - 11:35am
I do see some influence. She sees kids who have more "toys" and thinks she should have them too. Well, she learns really quick that that's not going to happen. Not too much on the dress front, she's pretty happy to wear anything that is half-way stylish and is not big on showing off too much skin. She is still in elementary school here, so we'll see what happens in Middle School next year. I think there is always pressure, on kids, and on adults. I just have to keep pointing out what she does have and maybe while Sarah might have a Hummer that drives her to school and goes to Florida every winter, she doesn't seem like a very happy girl. That those things don't make you happy and hope the lesson sticks.

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Mon, 01-29-2007 - 11:41am

My dd is also her own girl.

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Mon, 01-29-2007 - 1:18pm

Dd (13) is bothered by financial status- and kids that have "stuff". The great cell phone debate of last month here comes to mind (sigh).

You know another thing that bothers her (and I don't know if this can be put under pressures or not) name brand stuff. Not only will she NOT buy clothes at walmart (fine, nothing fits her skinny little body there anyways, though I will buy socks there) but she won't eat food that's not name brand. I buy the walmart brand (or store brand) of a lot of things- tomatoes, cheese, whipped cream etc. Most of the time it's just as good as the name brand- and cheaper. If I don't like it- I won't buy it again. But dd won't even try it. She would not have ice cream last week b/c I bought Great Value ice cream, and not Edy's (and the Great Value tastes just as good as Edys- esp when you put whipped cream and chocolate syrup on it)

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Mon, 01-29-2007 - 4:34pm

My daughter is under a lot of pressure. She goes to a high performing school, and she is under a lot of social pressure to get A's. All A's. On her last report card she "only" made the honor roll.

She also feels under pressure to stay thin, dress well, be pretty, be popular, be athletic, and be talented.

Thankfully other mature themes have not entered the picture. She doesn't feel under any social pressure to have a boyfriend.

We have a nice house in a desirable neighborhood, and she wears nice clothes, so money hasn't been a big issue yet. It probably will be more of an issue as she gets older. We don't have the money to jet off to Barcelona for Spring Break, or to have a formal dinner dinner dance at the country club for her birthday.

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Mon, 01-29-2007 - 7:16pm
Wow! Piercing - Our school has a very strict dress code, no purple hair, short skirts, even with leggings under, no cleavage showing....... and defiantly no piercing.
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Mon, 01-29-2007 - 8:30pm

>>She would not have ice cream last week b/c I bought Great Value ice cream, and not Edy's (and the Great Value tastes just as good as Edys- esp when you put whipped cream and chocolate syrup on it)<<


Just an FYI for your DD.

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Mon, 01-29-2007 - 10:09pm

I really don't see anything yet. I think it is because we

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