QOTW: What do you think?
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QOTW: What do you think?
| Mon, 10-22-2007 - 9:19am |
A new iVillage national survey found that:
- Moms have an easier time talking to their kids about sex than about financial discipline
- Women feel more connected to their friends than to their children
- Women think stay-at-home moms and working moms have a difficult time relating to one another
- 79% of women say working moms still feel guilty about not staying home with their children.
- 74% of women disagree that today's mothers have it easier than previous generations
So what do you think? Some of the findings are surprising – and maybe controversial. Please check the results, then add your comments – and please continue the discussion on your own board.
National Survey: What Moms are Thinking Now http://parenting.ivillage.com/mom/0,,bl4wrjxb,00.html

I'm personally not understanding this one, are they meaning that they allow their kids to spend too much, that they aren't teaching them about saving, that they aren't in good financial standing themselves?
I'm copying Nancy today. :-) Great minds think alike.
I'm not sure its an easier time or is it just more common. If you NEVER spoke about sex then even one conversation about finances would seem to be more. I think there is an understanding that kids need to know more about sex and staying safe today but we tend to assume that kids will just figure out financial stuff. And some parents may be embarrassed by their financial state, they don't want to tell the kids that the debt collector is at the door so they pretend everything is fine.
Well, not me. I don't really find that with the people I know. I find parents seem more involved with their kids now than many years ago where kids did their things and parents did theirs. Now you find whole families involved in activities like sailing, or surfing or whatever interests them.
Women probably do think that, sometimes "I" think that, but I think it really comes down to personality types. There are other working Mom's I can't really relate to so I think its a bit of a stereotype that women from the two camps can't relate.
I don't feel guilty about not staying home, but I have felt guilty about not being there at times. Is that the same thing? When your kid is sick and you have to work you do feel guilty, but I think most mothers work from necessity and you can't really feel guilty about putting food on the table and a roof over their heads. Again, I think this is also a presumption. Its says "women" say that, it doesn't say that working mom's say that. Big difference.
I think this is true. We have labour saving devices but I think roles are much less clearly defined these days leaving women trying to do it all. You are supposed to be super high powered career woman, keep a spotless house, be a great mother, volunteer at school, walk the dog and be a gourmet chef while wearing sexy lingere. Those are pretty hard shoes to fill. Yes, I think the manual labour is easier, we have all kinds of labour saving devices, but we simply filled up that time with her other things we have to do. But then as Nancy said, women years ago didn't have the freedom we have now, many had no license or no vehicle, no ability to get a job if they wanted to and those clearly defined roles held them back. So maybe there is no easier, just different.
I have to agree that talking about sex has been easier than I anticipated and I think easier than my mom found it when having to talk about it with me.
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# Moms have an easier time talking to their kids about sex than about financial discipline
Hmm... Maybe the financial talk is just so complicated??? I don't know. My oldest child is 11, we haven't had much of a reason to discuss it in depth yet. The sex talk I do not find that difficult.
# Women feel more connected to their friends than to their children
Yes, in some ways, I do feel more connected to my friends... They know ME better than my kids do in some ways; I need my friends to keep my sanity. They make me a better mom.
# Women think stay-at-home moms and working moms have a difficult time relating to one another
My personal experience is that I have friends who work and friends who don't, and we seem to relate just fine... But I have definitely seen both kinds of moms be a bit judgemental about the other kind at times.
# 79% of women say working moms still feel guilty about not staying home with their children.
Guilt just goes with the territory of being a mother!!!!!! No matter what you do, you are going to feel guilty about something!
# 74% of women disagree that today's mothers have it easier than previous generations
No way do we have it easier. We have so much more to worry about with our kids than previous generations did!!!!
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