QOTW...."ways to address adults"

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QOTW...."ways to address adults"
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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 8:39am

QOTW: Here is a question submitted by one of our board members.


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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 8:30pm

Hi all,


Well this topic is a hot one for me.

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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 8:59pm

You know, it is the ADULTS that have undermined my efforts to have my child address them respectfully.

I have taught her to call neighbors, adult friends of the family etc. Mr. and Mrs. So-and-So.

But then many of those adults launch into the ridiculous, "Oh, don't call me that. It makes me sound old." stuff.

I once had a leader at a camp that I was directing take her name camp name tag and deface it so that it didn't say Mrs. HerName, and I had made tags for all the adults. Sigh...

Maybe it's because I teach, and have been called Miss or Mrs. So-and-So since I was 22 years old - - but I really don't understand the reluctance of some adults to face up to their adulthood!

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Edited 10/16/2006 9:07 pm ET by merimom96
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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 9:36pm

Our children call aunts and uncles Aunt Tina, Uncle Kevin, etc. They call Gps Nanny Mary and Poppy David.

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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 10:23pm

Oh honey, you should visit some of the boards I go to online, there are fights about all sorts of odd stuff!


There are many who are rabidly against being addressed formally, who absolutely refuse to allow a child to call them Mrs. lastname and who hate ma'm/sir.

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Mon, 10-16-2006 - 11:30pm

I guess we are somewhere in the middle!


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Tue, 10-17-2006 - 4:42am

How have you raised your kids to address family members?

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Tue, 10-17-2006 - 9:31am
My kids use titles--for their aunts and uncles, it Aunt Tammy and Uncle Steve, for example.
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Tue, 10-17-2006 - 9:42am

>>>In a similar debate there were people rabidly against a man ever opening a door for them (which I adore as a good southern woman!)<<<


ARE U KIDDING ME?! I will stay outside the door is DH doesn't open the door for me. I expecetd it and he's always done it. I will say, living in CA- my DD will be hard pressed to find a young man that is being trained to open/old the door for women. *sigh* .....my boys are being taught that, and they actually frown if they see another man/boy that doesn't. YAY!!






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Registered: 09-26-2003
Tue, 10-17-2006 - 2:23pm

I am actually amazed at the older men who do not open doors anymore!


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Tue, 10-17-2006 - 2:44pm

I think it is just being polite no matter what sex or age you are.


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I couldn't agree more!






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