Questioning the existence of Santa.

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Questioning the existence of Santa.
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Wed, 12-12-2007 - 8:35pm
Matthew not once has really mentioned Santa this year.

 

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Thu, 11-13-2008 - 3:47pm

I've never told Kurt there is no such thing as Santa but he knows. When he was 10 and 11 he would ask me, and tell me that there is no way since the world is so big etc. I never agreed or disagreed with him. I don't feel its right that I tell him, but he heard it from other kids, I'm sure. he still gets presents from Santa, since a) his sister is only 3 and would wonder why he didn't get any and b) its fun to wake up and see what is in your stocking!!!

I'm pretty sure my older brother broke the news to me and I wasn't mad at my Mom. heck, sometimes on Christmas Eve, I lie in bed thinking "maybe there is a real Santa." And I wish there was so I wouldn't be so broke. lol

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Thu, 11-13-2008 - 4:46pm

"...I lie in bed thinking "maybe there is a real Santa." And I wish there was so I wouldn't be so broke. lol


I've been thinking this a lot lately!


Sherina still believes in Santa, but I think DH is ready to tell her the truth.

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Thu, 11-13-2008 - 5:05pm

Hi there.


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Thu, 11-13-2008 - 5:08pm

"Respect my authoritay"...ahahaha Cartman! Southpark is lewd and rude but I watch it secretly. LOL!


 

 

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Fri, 11-14-2008 - 11:18am

Welcome to the board and what a great story--and I agree with you, things happen and sometimes if we are deserving we are blessed with some big help.


We do the "Santa" thing in our home, along with the relgious aspect.


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Fri, 11-14-2008 - 1:52pm
Well Gabrielle,age 12,claims that she stopped believing in Santa when she was 3 or 4.She says she just did not say anything to us,until she was in 3rd grade because she though I would be crushed.When she was 4 she did look at a cookie we left out for Santa.Dh just took one bite out of it and left the rest and she made him bite another cookie and compared the bite marks.I never really told Gab Santa was just pretend,she told us.I still pretend sometimes,but she definatly knows he is pretend.Even at 3 she questioned how there could be so many Santas at so many places.SHe was always so logical and thoughtful and she kind of took the fun out of it.I never told her Santa would not come if she did not believe,becasue that really isn't true.I never remember feeling angry at my parents when I found out Santa was not real,I think the Santa thing is great to do and I kind of wishe Gab had been more into it,but for some reason it really did not excite her.

 

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Fri, 11-14-2008 - 10:41pm

When i was asked by my younger daughter at 7 i wondered aloud what she thought about it. I had to ask her not to tell her older sister who was 9 at the time. However by that Christmas they both knew. We discussed what Santa represents and how much fun I had playing Santa. We talked about the spirit behind Santa and then i passed the torch to them. I told them just as I had played Santa to them for many years it was now their job to play Santa for someone else. They didn't have to do it in the traditional sense but in someway they had to pass the spirit that Christmas represents to someone else. That Christmas they spent hours in ODD's room listening to music and chatting. I was thrilled they appeared to be bonding. Imagine how impressed and proud I was them when on Christmas morning i opened DH and I opened a present they had made for us. They took a lot of our old photos and they had put together a beautiful scrapbook. They included pictures of when DH and I were dating, our wedding, my preganancies. Each section had a caption. There was the section of "First there was one bump" first pregnancy, then a second bump came long .. you can guess it. They made a section called sisters, moms and daughters, daddies and daughters. You get the idea.


So perhaps it would be a good opportunity for your DS to play Santa for someone else. This year the girls want to do something more traditional such as the giving tree. Another great thing to do is we have always had a rule of before "santa" can bring you more things they have to go through any of

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Sat, 11-15-2008 - 4:42pm
Your daughters gave you a beautiful gift.
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Tue, 11-18-2008 - 11:56am

Hi, I'm not exactly 'new' to the board; I'm only 21 and no kids. But the whole thing about Santa caught my eye. I have to say that I agree whole-heartedly with those talking about the 'magic' of Christmas and Santa staying alive, even if there is no longer a belief in a chubby man coming down the chimney. In my family, two parents and kids: 21, 18, and 13, no one has believed in Santa for at least 6 years (I don't totally remember when my brother stopped believing). My sister (18) and I are both out of the house, away at college. Yet, we still all (including my parents), get a present from Santa, stockings, and doughnuts (not cookies for us) and milk are left out for Santa, as well as a carrot for Rudolph (which is perfectly gnawed in the morning). Why? I have no idea, but it's part of the tradition, and even when I have my own home, kids or not, I'll probably do something like it.

I do remember, around the age of 6, my sister and I sneaking downstairs to hide behind the couch and 'catch' Santa in the act; I think at that point, I kind of knew it wouldn't be Santa, but also really hoped it would be. I don't remember when I stopped believing, but I know I wasn't angry; it just made the most sense. It's the traditions that make it all so magical; we even still joke around about getting coal for Christmas if we're bad. So . . . I don't know if I really have advice for letting a kid down, but if, like the original poster, you let your kid participate in creating the magic (even if not for a younger sibling), he/she should still find great enjoyment in it all, just in a different way.

Always do right. This will grafity some people and astonish the rest. -Mark Twain If you do not speak up when it matters, when would it matter that you speak? The opposite of courage is conformity. Even a dead fish can go with the flow. -Jim Hightower
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Tue, 11-18-2008 - 3:58pm

Thanks!


I'd never thought of having my daughter share the magic & become a "Santa" for believers until I read this thread, but it's a great idea & I plan to use it.

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