Saying Hello

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Registered: 08-02-2003
Saying Hello
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 12:15pm
Good day folks!

Just came across this board and I had to say Hello. I'm a SAHM of a 10 year old boy, Dylan, with ADHD. DH is Mike and the love of my life, we've been together almost 12 years. My sister introduced me to iVillage and I've been looking for a board to make my mark on ever since. I think I've finally found it. I've read some of your posts and I would like to start calling this place home. I can relate to a lot of what I've read so far.

My story is long and winding so I'll try to shorten it as best as possible. When Dylan was small he was constantly getting into things, not always safe things, and nothing worked to calm him down. I never had any of the online resources I have now back then, just a couple younger siblings. At the age of 5 he burned our house down while playing with a lighter. Child welfare stepped in and blamed me and DH and took him for 6 months and put him in foster care. Worst time of my life. We bent over backwards and jumped through all the hoops to get him back and I started my search to find someone, anyone, who would listen to me that something was not quite right with my baby boy. Found a doctor willing to pay attention to me and test him for ADHD. He's been on medication and a strict regiment of diet and exercise since that very day and I've never looked back.

He's 10 now, in grade 5 French Immersion and though his grades aren't perfect, he's doing really well. He's my pride and joy and I can't picture life without him. Though don't get me wrong, he does know how to drive me mental. When I tured 30 last month he told me it was too bad I was so old now.

So that's it in a nutshell. I'm a SAHM by choice and can't see that changing any time soon. I love being here to hear about his day in school, or making a sandwich for the quick walk back to school because he forgot his lunch. My family doesn't understand this, they all work and I grew up with a working single mom. They think it's strange that I don't want to go out of the home to a job all day and instead chose to make my home and family my full time job. I hear things like, "Dylan is 10 now, what's stopping you from getting a job?" What ever happened to those days when being a wife and mother WAS a job.

Ah well, I'm not here to rage and vent... yet. ;)

I look forward to reading more posts and getting to know you folks a lot better.

Have a good one today! Smile often!

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Registered: 06-08-2004
In reply to: xandria_bear
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 12:44pm

Hello and welcome!!


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Registered: 08-02-2003
In reply to: xandria_bear
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 6:32pm
Actually yes I do have pics, now where did I put that web address.. aha here it is: I'm the one in the Santa hat holding the wolf.

French Immersion means he learns the majority of his school work in French and takes an English class, as opposed to taking a single other language class.

And thanks, you know I never thought of it in terms of people telling me I should "get a job" because they're jealous. That makes it a whole lot easier to deal with now. Rock!

As for the ranting, it just might happen, and I get long winded, that's your only warning ;)


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Registered: 08-20-2003
In reply to: xandria_bear
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 11:37pm

WOW what a story you have!! Thanks so much for sharing it!

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Registered: 06-08-2004
In reply to: xandria_bear
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 12:13pm

Thanks so much for sharing the pics - they're great!!

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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: xandria_bear
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 12:28pm
Hi XB! Nice to have you aboard! I just turned 30 as well. I can feel your pain with child protective services as I went through something similar. My ex decided to put us through the wringer and since he's a cop, he must be telling the absolute truth and we are nothing but a bunch of rotten liars - right? WRONG! It took us so long to get even a modicum of truth set forth in the courts. It was the most absolute worst time in my life (and then I my godson died during all of it too, so it really was the worst time in my life).

I too am a SAHM and love it. I love being with the children and doing for them and teaching them things and watching them grow. It's just a great feeling.



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Registered: 08-02-2003
In reply to: xandria_bear
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 3:51pm
I took French from grade 6 through 12 and Dylan surpassed my french knowledge when he was in grade 3. He's in grade 5 now and everytime i hear him with his homework it amazes me. Living in New Brunswick makes it neccessary that he be completely bilingual. It's the only way to ensure he will have a better future than his parents.

I got the usual amount of flak for putting him in French Immersion. "Oh he doesn't need that!" or the best, "When will he ever use it?" Well as we live in a bilingual province with the two official languages, I'm thinking he'll use it a lot. Personally I think they're just jealous that they never thought of it first ;)

Hey, there's a rant.. let me start a new discussion so as not to combine everything together...
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Registered: 06-08-2004
In reply to: xandria_bear
Thu, 09-16-2004 - 4:42pm
Personally I think they're just jealous that they never thought of it first ;)
I wouldn't bet against you.