scary nights

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Fri, 01-02-2004 - 11:37pm
okay, here's an odd question for other moms of 10 and 11 year olds. out of the blue my 11 year boy is stressed out at bedtime, convinced something bad is going to happen to him (and his family), winds himself up..

it started about two weeks ago (xmas is stressful, but c'mon) we limit things like scary movies and have taken to reading before bed and playing board games to keep things mellow. is this a pre-teen thing? anybody else?
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In reply to: jaymanwill
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 1:06am

I'm sorry that you're dealing with this now.

Sherrie Rainbow

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In reply to: jaymanwill
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 9:01am
My DD, Sarah (10) is a very sensitive, intovert, and she has always had trouble going to sleep at night. We don't let her watch ANY violent tv or movies and limit any exposure to bad news (altho' we don't try to shield her from it totally because she will have to deal with it eventually).

Every night at bedtime she asks "did you lock all the doors" and many nights I have to lay with her til she falls asleep (altho not all the time like I used to - until she was 9!)

For me I think it is just her gentle soul personality, and I am not sure anything I do or say will be able to change it. I just have to love her and reassure her she is safe.

My DH is getting ready to deply for 6-12 months to Kuwait, so I am looking for some regression to come! We added some security measures to the house which hopefully will ease her fears some, but to be honest, as a woman, I too sometimes am scared when I am alone and without DH!

Good luck!

Laura

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In reply to: jaymanwill
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 11:56am
wow! you know how amazing this site is. i posted my first message at 9p last night and already wonderful feedback. thank you..thank you. last night we did talk for a long time about what was bothering him.. a lot, apparently. but (and it seems humourous to me, but not to him) is what triggered this thing was a stupid, stupid movie called "ernest goes to the aliens"..go figure!! thank you again. peaceful nights to all..


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Sat, 01-03-2004 - 2:39pm
I can relate, but in ds11's case it was worse movies; he had an awful time with Stephen King's The Shining (new version) that we had on tape. Took literally months to have him go to bed without issues. Then recently he saw King's It, and it happened all over again. So we definitely monitor the movies!

(Otherwise it was a good 8 months after 9/11 before he could sleep peacefully, and then he saw NOVA on the structure of the Twin Towers, and that did it all over again...sigh)

Sue, mom to sensitive ds11

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In reply to: jaymanwill
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 3:23pm

Glad you got such quick responses! I wanted to add my welcome to the board. I'm glad you found us and jumped right in.


My dd is VERY sensitive about movies. Some, as you say, seem pretty silly to me. Even at 11 1/2 now, she couldn't watch "Princess Bride" with us New Year's Eve, because of the scenes with the fire swamp and very fake-looking large rats. The movie is a parody, not meant to be scary, but she asked to go upstairs. I let her be the judge of what she watches, because she is very sensitive, even at this age.


Hope to see you here often!

Janet


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In reply to: jaymanwill
Sat, 01-03-2004 - 3:26pm

Welcome, Laura! As I posted above, my 11.5 yo dd is also very sensitive about movies. Her twin brother is as well, but not quite as much. We also limit what they watch. I'm actually amazed at what some kids their age watch! No way at our house.


Best wishes to your dh and your family. I hope his deployment goes smoothly for all of you.

Janet


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In reply to: jaymanwill
Sun, 01-04-2004 - 2:54pm
Janet,

Thank you for your kind welcome. I am glad there are boards such as these! They save my sanity and make me feel I am not alone. I am also posting on guard and reserve families, and many of them are going through deployments with kids, so I know I will get a lot of good ideas and support there.

Laura

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In reply to: jaymanwill
Mon, 01-05-2004 - 12:08pm
Oh, Princess Bride is one of our all-time favorites! Sorry she's afraid of the ROUS's!