School Day and Dress Switch.

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Registered: 12-29-2003
School Day and Dress Switch.
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Wed, 08-24-2011 - 12:12pm

Hello All!! I was just informed by my fourteen year old son, that his school is doing what they call, a day of switch around dress. Girls wear boys cloths, boys wear girls clothing. There is then a contest to see who made the best dress change. I was all right with this until he told me it had to be from the skin out!! I'm not sure how to handle this. David doesn't think it's such a big deal, and really wants to do it. His best friend is doing it too. His mother told me I was making too much of it, and even took her son shopping for correct sizing. Is it right to allow a fourteen year old boy to wear girls underwear!!?? I don't want to spoil something that he's looking forward to

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Wed, 08-24-2011 - 12:45pm
I would call the school and inquire about this, just to make sure it wasn't being misinterpreted at all firstly. Are they really going to check if the boys are wearing girls underwear?? And if so, you get into a whole other issues on possibly legalities of the school IMO (coming from a legal background). While I don't see an issue with it myself per se if the child is interested in doing it, its probably easier for me to say that as a mother of 3 girls and no boys. Now my DH, he would be on the phone with the school so fast it'd make your head spin.
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Wed, 08-24-2011 - 1:41pm

I would verify with parents of older students or with the staff what the "norm" is on this just so your son doesn't go all out and find he's only one of

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Wed, 08-24-2011 - 2:04pm

Thanks for your reassurance!! I have checked with several of the girls and boys who attend the same school my son does. They all confirm that there will be such a contest, and it's really all in fun. I even called the school to reaffirm, by talking to some staff personnel. As I said, I was okay with it, until the girl's underwear part came out!! I'm going to do some shopping for him, skirt, blouse, and the underwear...not sure what I'll do about shoes..guess his own sneakers will do. Why can't I be like the other mother's, and go with the flow??!! Oh well, it is what it is...I guess. Thanks again..

Judy

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 08-24-2011 - 8:18pm

I think the idea of buying girls' underthings for a boy is over the top ridiculous, no matter what everyone else is doing. (And in my house, "everyone else is doing it" is a good argument for doing just the opposite!) If your son wants to play along, have him wear his own underwear, borrow a dress from a girl his size, then wash and return it when the contest is over. He can wear flipflops with it, regardless of the weather. Even in New England, some boys and girls wear flipflops unless there are 6 inches of snow on the ground.

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Registered: 06-06-2002
Thu, 08-25-2011 - 7:18am
Personally it sounds very weird to me! Do they raise money for charity at the same time? I've never heard of it happening where I live and I know a lot of men would object - my brother was bad enough at his sons having to wear something pink for a charity day. To ask them to wear a bra and a dress would be way too much. I know my DH would feel the same if we had boys and I wouldn't want to waste money buying boys underpants and boy cut jeans for DD to wear once.

But I suppose if it's more normal where you live and there is a specific reason and everyone is doing it, I'd probably end up with DD involved too
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Thu, 08-25-2011 - 12:43pm
Well Gabby would NEVER wear boys clothing to school.Heck she won't even wear sweat clothing out of the house.I do remember when I was in hs in the late 70s we had a crazy day at school and a couple of football players dressed in the cheer uniforms.But somehow that seems different to me.I really don't think any school would tell someone they need to wear undergarments of the opposite sex.I could not even see a school around here promoting it in exactly that way.And to say it was mandatory.If they want to fine.Heck when Gabby was in firstgrade and she need a white turtle neck for cheer and I could not find one in the girls dept.I just goot oe in the boys.Itried to cut the tags off before she saw them,but she still flipped and she reminds me of it to this day at 15 about the time I FORCED her to wear boys clothing and I am pretty sure noone else knew it was a boys turtleneck.I am all for being who you are and if a boy wants to dress in girl clothing on a daily basis I say fine,but to force kids to do it...