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Sleep over trouble
| Thu, 07-03-2003 - 11:00am |
My DS, age 11, has a terrible time sleeping away from home. In fact, out of the maybe 20 times he has been invited to sleepovers, he has managed to make it the whole night a total of five times. I feel so sorry for him, because he really really wants to do it, but around midnight or 1am, it is too much for him and he calls for me to come and get him. He says he misses me too much and just wants to be home. For several months I told him he could stay late, but not sleep over, and that was fine with him then. But lately he has wanted to give it another try. Be he still can't seem to do it. He has no problem going to bed at home, being away from me when I travel, etc. Any thoughts? Advice? I know it isn't a big deal, but I do feel bad for him. Thanks
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I also know a guy at work here who has a son 2 weeks younger than ds (they'll be 11 next month) and he has yet to be willing to go anywhere overnight with friends...
I think some are just not ready yet (if you read my scout thing, ds10 would NEVER have gone 600 miles from home without me there, and still had a bit of a rough time for the first couple of days even with me there (different tent/area)). And I don't know if there's anything we can do but give them time and trial/error at attempting it.
Sue
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Sherrie
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One other thought: What happens at midnight or 1 when he calls to come home? Does he have trouble falling asleep at the other house? Does he have an anxiety reaction of some kind? Maybe you could give him a relaxation technique in either case. There's the one where you start at the top of your head, tensing and relaxing each muscle individually and slowly progressing down to your feet. Or, you could have him go through a boring song in his head several times. Have him do some type of exercise like that, and see if that relaxes him enough to avoid anxiety, or to fall asleep. Tell him that once he goes through whatever technique you come up with, he can certainly still call you to come get him. He may be panicking, and maybe something like this would help him.
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"deflate." Sounds kind of creepy now that I describe it, but it worked! Hugs to all.
Patty