Social rejection from other children
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|Wed, 06-02-2004 - 9:21am|
My 11-yr-old son is in a parochial school and he just got out for the summer. He has ADD and that seems to be going well in the classroom, but we are now dealing with socialization. There seems to be two sets of boys in the 6th grade. The jocks (who last year won the city-wide championship and rub it in my son's face all the time -- he wasn't on the team) and the others, basically. My DS loves athletics also, but is tuned into the video game bunch also. He has several fairly good friends and is in the Boy Scouts.
That's where this is all headed. Scouts. Last nite he went with the Boy Scouts to help with a Crusade for Children donation thing they do here. He got to ride on the back of this BIG fire truck with one scout and other boys from his class that aren't in scouts (nerds I think they think). Two of the other 3 boys are pretty good friends with him -- but they opted to leave that firetruck and ride on another and completely left my son and the other scout out (the other scout isn't a very good friend and is kinda "delayed" - my DS doesn't really like to be associated with him, he bugs him, etc.). He was really hurt.
Then when they got to the pizza party after the crusade thing, and one of the boys started calling my son "terrorist" and kept telling him to get lost. The 2 other boys didn't defend him. (I think the scout leaders were still out on some trucks, and not there yet.)
He KNOWS a terrorist is an awful person. He wouldn't go to bed last night, and finally came to my room crying. He said "maybe I am a terrorist type person". Maybe they are right.
He is so broken hearted. Devastated. He really had a place with the scouts, and now he is losing all that self-esteem. Of course the boy causing all this pain for my son, acts like an angel when the adults show up.
I don't know whether to call other parents involved. But then that can backfire and he will become the tattle-taler. The boy calling him names is really a nice kid. His parents are kinda cliquish, and my DS's dad and I aren't in there "social group."
But, what do I do? He has to fight his own battles. But it hurts so to see him hurt. The ADD does tend to get him excitable which I'm sure other kids don't understand. He hates it.
I'm lost on this one.