Take Your Child to Work Day

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Take Your Child to Work Day
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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 6:28am
Does your school participate in this program? Personally, I think it's STUPID! It started off years ago as "Take your DAUGHTER to work day" as a way of showing young girls (middle school age) about the workplace and such. I guess some parents of sons felt this was sexist, and it evolved into 'take your child to work' ... and then it dropped down to elementary school. With middle-school age girls, there are things at work they could help with ... answering phones, filing. Elementary age kids (boys especially) are very limited. And, there doesn't even seem to be the intent on 'teaching' them anything ... just basically giving them a day off of school. Heck, they aren't even required to write a report about what they did or what they learned. Kevin came home with a permission slip which outlined (briefly) the program, saying this was for kids ages 9-14 ... and on the back, you sign whether or not your child will participate. Kelli came home with the same 'permission slip' without the 'description' on the back. SO, she, at age SEVEN is allowed to participate as well.

Well, this may be all well and good for the school, but quite frankly, it's a serious imposition to the parent. Some parents might have the type of job where it's o.k. to have a kid hang around all day. DH, if he didn't have appointments and such, could possibly do this. But I'm already trying to fit a full time job into 6 hours, I'm under a tremendous amount of stress, and the last thing I need are a couple of kids (even my own) under foot to add to that stress level. They can't help. Last year, Kevin came to the office, and I was miserable. He behaved well enough, but was essentially bored. (I did have him alphabetize some files, but that took less than 30 min.) One kid was there playing on the Internet. What's that all about? I know some SAHMs that are just letting their kids stay home ... but, are they doing household chores or something? Heck no. So, my question is WHAT EXACTLY IS THE POINT OF ALL THIS? Is it a way of giving teachers an extra work day with limited students? Are the kids actually supposed to 'learn' something from this experience? I don't mind (heck, I enjoy) spending a day with my kids ... but not at my office.

So, I've already made the decision that Kelli is not going. I'm sorry, but that just isn't going to work. She cannot do anything to help, it would be a free for all day for her and a stressful day for me ... and since she isn't even 9, she isn't old enough to participate in this anyway! But with Kevin, I'm torn ... he's really angry because most of his friends aren't going to school. SO, either I let him go to work with me and hope for the best, or I make him go to school where he'll be one of only a handful of kids, and deal with his anger.

I just think that this entire 'program' has gotten out of hand and gotten away from the original intent. AND, it's the parent who becomes the 'bad guy' for not participating.

Nancy

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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 9:09am
Our school doesn't do it, which I'm glad, because neither dh's nor my workplace would permit it!
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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 3:26pm
I have to first say that I agree with you. when I was doing family day care in my home, my daughters would ask to stay home and I wouldnt let them. I said "you just want to stay home, you don't want to change a diaper." I agree that it is out of hand and just a day away from school. If the kids had to write a report, tell what they did, and had specific chores at the office, great but not if they are just there to follow you around and complain about being bored. One day my dh took my ds to work, on a Saturday. He had no choice so he took him. My ds had a great time but only because they kept giving him things to do and one of the people that works with dh was doing things with ds, like practicing karate in the conference rooms.... lol! He hopes this person is there again. My ds also liked that my dh works in (but not for..)an FBI building!
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Fri, 04-25-2003 - 6:17am
Well ... I have to confess, it didn't go as badly as I'd feared. Out of sheer guilt, I took Kevin (11) with me. There's been a filing project that needs to get done, and I figured that Kevin (and one of the other kids coming in) could make a dent in it ... something that no one else has the time or desire to do. Well, they got a LOT done. He was very helpful and cooperative and well-behaved. I have him alphabetize tons of 'dead' files from 2002, then help me lug out the boxes from storage to interfile, etc. I have to go in today to move the boxes back ... as we left them on the tables in our 'kitchen' area ... but the 2 kids (with very little help or assistance from me) got done an entire year of Dead Files ... which could have taken us DAYS to do (by doing a little here, a little there.) Jokingly, I told them I was going to write them notes so they could get out of school today ... and the other mom called me last night to say her DD (in private school) didn't have school today and wanted to know if she could come back and help me some more! Talk about cheap labor. LOL (Gonna talk to my boss about doing something for them!) I had figured that if Kevin didn't behave, I could always take him home ... I live minutes from the office ... although I told him he'd have to go back to school. But, he worked really hard AND enjoyed himself. I was really proud of him and despite my reservations, was glad I took him.

(I still think the way the school has this structured, it's a stupid program. I would not think of taking Kelli, my 7 y.o. I was also annoyed because when I took Kelli to school, they didn't even have the school zone flashing lights flashing ... like it was a day OFF of school, which it was NOT. And, if Kevin ever missed school, I probably wouldn't have done it ... but as it is, he has 100% perfect attendance since entering public school, so a day away from school without being 'absent' made sense.)

Nancy

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