Thank you notes?

Avatar for sohappilyme
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thank you notes?
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 8:52am

My step-daughter, who is ten, refuses to write thank you notes.

Avatar for suzyk2118
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Registered: 07-30-1997
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 9:14am
DH's family is very large (he's 3rd of 8) so the kids always do a 'group thanks' out loud after they've opened birthday or holiday gifts, and no one has expected more. Kid parties are different; I've expected ds to send thank yous to everyone who came, with a personal acknowledgement of the gift. As he's gotten older, he balks at the writing (hates to write), but he's ok with sending ecards from places like Hallmark's online site. So since all his friends have email, I've been ok with that, provided the effort is made. That goes for when my cousins (300 miles away) send him a card with cash as well; they have a fun ecard exchange. FWIW.


Avatar for cl_janetlh
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 7:38pm

Welcome, Sarah! This is so tough, since your sdd's mom has different values on this issue. Perhaps you and dh can sit down and discuss with her why this is so important to you, including how it makes people feel, and how it reflects on her and her family's manners and values.

My kids have always written thank you notes for party gifts and gifts received by mail. Grandparents and aunts and uncles get a thank you in person or over the phone, but the appreciation is acknowledged. So, I don't think she necessarily has to write notes to you and dh, but she should express her thanks. Of course, you may totally disagree with me on this!

My kids use ecards for relatives and close friends of the family. For party gifts, they use a print shop program, and change the text of each note for the individual. They then print it, and sign it by hand.

Good luck with this issue! Glad you found our board.


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