Think I've Lost My Mind ...

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Tue, 10-07-2003 - 6:27am

I posted just days ago about how we pulled Kevin off his travel ball team because of the coaches' inappropriate behavior, but the upside to that was we finally had a little breathing room on our calendar.

Nancy 

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Tue, 10-07-2003 - 8:34am
Nancy, I can relate about the freedom thing. I have a ds11 who plays baseball also. We haven't done a travel team because of the commitment involved. We have 3 kids and dh travels a lot so the bulk of it would be on me. From what I know most kids at our park don't play on a regular season team at the same time. If they are on a travel team, that is all they do. No other activities. It sounds like the perfect coaching situation so I understand it would be hard to pass up. What does KEVIN want to do? Was he upset at being pulled off the other team? I know my ds has a significant amount of HW this year and we stress that comes first. He loves baseball, but knows if he was on a travel team all he'd have time for would be HW. No real time just to play and be a kid! If you did decide to join the travel team, would he keep up w/ karate too? I know that would be too much for my ds. I know it might be hard to pass up an opportunity, but I'd really see how Kevin feels about having such a full schedule. My ds wanted to play soccer and baseball at the same time. we did it one season then said no way and made him choose. In the long run he has to be happy with it. If he's not and stressed because of time, etc.. that'll make your life even more difficult.

GOOD LUCK! I know it's a tough choice!

Karen

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Wed, 10-08-2003 - 6:31am

My 'rule' has always been 'one sport per season' although I've let the kids continue with karate since it's not a huge commitment (time or money) ... they're supposed to go to 2 1-hour classes per week, with a choice of 4 days to pick from, and it costs me like $300 per quarter for both kids, so if they only

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Wed, 10-08-2003 - 9:12am
Hi Nancy, my son is going to be 10 in Dec. and also just loves baseball! This sounds like a dream opportunity to me. Our town baseball ended before school got out, and he made the all-star team which played thru out most of the summer. Now he didn't get much playing time in allstars because they had the core team already decided on, so he and two others got in the rotation, it is very hard to see your son sit on the bench, but we knew this going in, he made the team, and the coach is pretty fair. Now my husband coached my son's town team, but a different coach has the allstar team. Now that coach and the other coach's sons are on the starting lineup, but they are very good and deserve to be. I don't really believe our coach plays favorites, but it did get very hard for my son, who practiced all the time, suited up and only got to play a small amount on each game! This new team that you are deciding on sounds perfect. The coach's abilities, the size of the team, and his abilities and the practicing and training, I would most certainly put my son on this type of team. My son also does karate, which was very expensive, and he needs to understand he has to see it through to his black belt, even though he tends to get bored. Now, he is also doing soccer, which is not his passion. He tried out for the travel team, which I might add is the same group pretty much as the allstar baseball team, coach included. He said my son was close, but most of the kids have been on this travel team for two years now, and he only took two new kids. Next year they can take up to 18 kids and rotate 11 at a time. So, I was not too upset even though his friends are on the travel soccer, but my son does not have the same kind of passion for soccer as he does for baseball. He is a really good baseball player, I think he got nervous during all stars and didn't play as well as he did during the regular season. Last year and this year have been the same coaches for all stars and kids who didn't make it, had parents blast the coach saying things like it was "all decided" before hand, and they play faves etc.. I really like our coach and he is fair, and his son is a great baseball player, so it is not just he is the coach'es son. I do like the fact that your soon to be new coach won't have his son on his team, it does eliminate alot of stress and problems. My husband got told by a parent that he was putting one parent's son at the bottom of the batting order, and all the coaches sons were playing at the top, and my husband told her that is not true, he puts who is the best at the top and on the infield. So, it has to be hard for a coach. I would say that if your son really wants to be on this team, to go for it,it would be a great experience! Sorry, this is so long, but baseball is my son's passion, and I feel very strong about good coaching and fairness on teams.

Tracey

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Wed, 10-08-2003 - 7:50pm

(OOPS ... that was supposed to be an AGREE, not ANGRY emoticon.)

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Thu, 10-09-2003 - 9:54am

Welcome, Tracey! Thanks for jumping in and giving Nancy some BTDT experience. Hope to see you here often!


Janet

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