ThUrSdAy Thoughts - Grandparents

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ThUrSdAy Thoughts - Grandparents
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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 8:47am
Are they involved in your tweener's lives?
Where do they live?
Do they critique the way you parent?
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 04-26-2007 - 1:49pm

My parents are both very much involved in my kids life!


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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 3:39pm

Both sets of grandparents live within 15 mins of us (they actually live 5 mins from one another!). Both sets are involved in their lives and always have been. My inlaws never interfere with the way we parent them, but my mom will occasionally make comments about how we parent (mostly that I am too overprotective and too picky about things with them).


I don't want to parent the way that my mom did, so I work very hard at doing things differently. My mom yelled ALL the time about EVERYTHING. I don't want to be like that. She was WAY too strict with me and not nearly strict enough with my sisters. She held a grudge about anything bad we ever did (and will bring it up to this day - I am 31). She also worked full time and didn't spend much time with us. I saw the flaws in her parenting and refuse to repeat those same mistakes with my own kids. I think that is the biggest issue my mom has with the way I parent - I'm not a carbon copy of her.


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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 4:31pm

My parents in Blue, ex's parents in red


Are they involved in your tweener's lives? As much as they can be living far away. They call and talk to her, send her e-mails, we went to Florida with them last year, my Mom flew out to stay with her when I went on a business trip, they send little care packages and we see them at least once a year generally.



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Fri, 05-04-2007 - 9:14pm

My mom and her DH live not to far from us. My mother is very involved in Hannah's life and spends a lot of time with her. They go things every month or so, movies, etc. We go over to their house or they come over here for dinner almost every week. My mom and her DH do not critique our parenting at all.


In-laws are snow birds and spend winters in AZ and summers on the San Juan Islands. MIL sends packages from AZ to Hannah every holiday. :) We spend a lot of time during the summer on their boat too. Hannah cleans the crab with her grandpa and dad when they catch them. She's getting pretty good and doing those things in. Poor crabs!


In-laws stay out of the child rearing. They show unconditional love to us all. I love them to death.


I don't speak to my father at the moment. He sends presents and cards to Hannah on Holidays. We don't get along so we're not speaking. LOL He has a home about an hour away from her and a house in Fl. When we are speaking he's oppionated and thinks DH and I are terrible parents.



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