too small for friends
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|Sat, 06-19-2004 - 11:00am|
because he is small. He just turned 10, finished 4th grade and going to 5th grade soon;
he looks like he is just starting first. His first grade cousin is half a head taller than him and she is normal height in her class. This will give you an idea on his
size. He has never had this "problem" before and was always positive about his height.
But now, he's got this paranoia that no one will like him because he looks
younger than he is. We found out last week that a family with four kids
ages 7 to 12 were moving into our neighbourhood. There are no other school
aged kids in the neighbourhood, so we thought he would be thrilled.
Nope. He said, "Oh, they won't think I'm going to be a fifth grader and so
they won't talk to me."
last night, he showed me a project he had done for school -- a progress
packet to send to their 5th grade teachers. He will be in a new school
next year, and the letter he wrote to his teacher said, "I hope the other
kids will be nice to me. I'm very small for my age, and they might not like
me because they think I'm a little kid."
Now, I think this is happening because he is going to the new school, and
he's afraid. I've told him to tell kids how old he is if they don't seem to believe
him. And they'll notice soon enough that he *is* older by the things he
does, like ride his bike out of the block, or simply by the way he
communicates. But he still seems sceptical.
I was one of those rare kids who stayed in one school my whole life, and
except for when I went to college, I never had to walk into a classroom
feeling utterly alone. I have no idea how he might be feeling. Any
suggestions, experience, or comments?