Unmotivated 10 year old boy

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2006
Unmotivated 10 year old boy
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Mon, 04-02-2012 - 8:55pm

My 10 year old son made it into our city spelling bee but he doesn't want to study and doesn't care if he wins or not.

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Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 04-02-2012 - 10:00pm
Welcome to the board! What motivated him to get as far as he has so far? Is he naturally good at spelling or did he take the time to study and want to get that far? If it isn't really important to him, there may not be much that will motivate him, he may do his best, but not with studying. Has he already put in quite a bit of practice, could he be burned out already from studying?
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Registered: 08-31-2006
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 10:59am

Thanks for your response.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2006
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 11:00am
and btw i have had him study quite a bit and am pulling back in case what I'm seeing is more burn out than anything.
Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 12:09pm
I hate to say it, but since the platform change last fall IV has been much slower than it used to be. You may get as many or more replies on the surviving middle school and high school board as we get a cross mix of people on that board also.

http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/Surviving-Middle-High-School/ct-p/iv-ppmiddlehigh

And not that its any sort of excuse at all, but I do know a lot of the regular members of this board are also on spring break this week.
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Registered: 03-22-2007
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 12:34pm
Do you think he's worried he won't do well at the city level and is acting this way so as to not get his hopes up too much? He could be feeling pressure and insecurity over it, so instead of buckling down and working hard to do well, he's just acting like he doesn't care. That's just a theory though!

I wouldn't let him blow it off at all. I would probably lay down the law that he got to this point and he needs to try for the sake of his school. Give him a study schedule you'll be sticking to, it doesn't need to be overwhelming hours, just enough to have him practicing regularly. Maybe if he is worried about it, this might give him some more confidence. Boys at this age are more worried about how they appear to others, he doesn't want to go to the spelling bee unprepared.

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Registered: 03-22-2007
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 12:35pm
That's probably a good idea to pull it back a little, when is the city bee?

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Registered: 02-24-2012
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 1:12pm

He might be nervous.

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Registered: 02-24-2012
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 1:18pm
I'm sorry you didn't get a lot of responses. We're on spring break and it is absolutely gorgeous outside today, so this is the first opportunity I've had to check iVillage. I do hear you about lack of insight on Cafe Mom, though. I've posted there before with a "whole lotta nothing" in the way of responses. It is a bit slower here, but I'm sure more people will chime in. Welcome to the village!
Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 1:51pm
OT, but welcome HH6fam! Its nice to see a new face on the board, even just to pop in with a helpful response.
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Registered: 09-30-2011
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 1:56pm

Just wanted to throw in my welcome to "needsadvice2006" and " hh6fam" too! :smileyhappy:

I love your idea of pulling back some- it definitely sounds like it could be burn-out. How long do you have until the spelling bee?

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