Unmotivated 10 year old boy

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Unmotivated 10 year old boy
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Mon, 04-02-2012 - 8:55pm

My 10 year old son made it into our city spelling bee but he doesn't want to study and doesn't care if he wins or not.

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Registered: 02-24-2012
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 2:44pm

Um, "spelling BEE".

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Registered: 02-24-2012
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 2:47pm
Thanks! I used to post a lot more when I was a part of an expecting club, but that was a while ago. I'm more of a reader these days, but maybe I'll start posting some more. I always thought I'd have more time to spend online as my kids got older, but that really hasn't been the case!
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 3:54pm

If this is an optional activity I just would see no point in making him do it.

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 9:44am
Congrats to your son for making it into the city spelling bee! That's awesome! It can be frustrating when they don't seem to be motivated, though. My oldest guy is the same way and sometimes it makes me want to pull out my hair.

He's obviously good at spelling so I can understand your desire to get him excited. Have you tried using an incentive with him? I know it sounds silly, but I use it at times. For example, my middle guy is really good at playing soccer and I want to encourage him to play (he'd rather stay home and play video games!). I was able to get him excited about going to games and practices by telling him we'd stop and get an Icee when we were done. That's all it took and we've had little problem getting him motivated since. It really is the small things!

Maybe you can find something small like that to motivate your son to try his best?

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 3:28pm
hh6fam wrote:
Thanks! I used to post a lot more when I was a part of an expecting club, but that was a while ago. I'm more of a reader these days, but maybe I'll start posting some more. I always thought I'd have more time to spend online as my kids got older, but that really hasn't been the case!

Yes, please do! We'd love to have you.

And I can relate to not really having more time now- my keychain says "Mom's Taxi" and that's really what I feel like most days!

Lisa

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Registered: 08-25-2000
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 8:26pm

Just saw your post.

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Registered: 03-18-2011
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 9:33am
I just wanted to play devil's advocate for a minute. Is there any chance he could be feeling nervous or intimidated by the other kids he'll be up against? Maybe not studying will give him and "excuse" (for lack of a better word) if he doesn't do well. Just a thought...

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