Unmotivated 10 year old boy

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Registered: 08-31-2006
Unmotivated 10 year old boy
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Mon, 04-02-2012 - 8:55pm

My 10 year old son made it into our city spelling bee but he doesn't want to study and doesn't care if he wins or not.

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Registered: 03-18-2011
Thu, 04-05-2012 - 9:33am
I just wanted to play devil's advocate for a minute. Is there any chance he could be feeling nervous or intimidated by the other kids he'll be up against? Maybe not studying will give him and "excuse" (for lack of a better word) if he doesn't do well. Just a thought...
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Registered: 08-25-2000
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 8:26pm

Just saw your post.

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 3:28pm
hh6fam wrote:
Thanks! I used to post a lot more when I was a part of an expecting club, but that was a while ago. I'm more of a reader these days, but maybe I'll start posting some more. I always thought I'd have more time to spend online as my kids got older, but that really hasn't been the case!

Yes, please do! We'd love to have you.

And I can relate to not really having more time now- my keychain says "Mom's Taxi" and that's really what I feel like most days!

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 9:44am
Congrats to your son for making it into the city spelling bee! That's awesome! It can be frustrating when they don't seem to be motivated, though. My oldest guy is the same way and sometimes it makes me want to pull out my hair.

He's obviously good at spelling so I can understand your desire to get him excited. Have you tried using an incentive with him? I know it sounds silly, but I use it at times. For example, my middle guy is really good at playing soccer and I want to encourage him to play (he'd rather stay home and play video games!). I was able to get him excited about going to games and practices by telling him we'd stop and get an Icee when we were done. That's all it took and we've had little problem getting him motivated since. It really is the small things!

Maybe you can find something small like that to motivate your son to try his best?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 3:54pm

If this is an optional activity I just would see no point in making him do it.

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Registered: 02-24-2012
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 2:47pm
Thanks! I used to post a lot more when I was a part of an expecting club, but that was a while ago. I'm more of a reader these days, but maybe I'll start posting some more. I always thought I'd have more time to spend online as my kids got older, but that really hasn't been the case!
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Registered: 02-24-2012
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 2:44pm

Um, "spelling BEE".

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 1:56pm

Just wanted to throw in my welcome to "needsadvice2006" and " hh6fam" too! :smileyhappy:

I love your idea of pulling back some- it definitely sounds like it could be burn-out. How long do you have until the spelling bee?

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 1:51pm
OT, but welcome HH6fam! Its nice to see a new face on the board, even just to pop in with a helpful response.
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Registered: 02-24-2012
Tue, 04-03-2012 - 1:18pm
I'm sorry you didn't get a lot of responses. We're on spring break and it is absolutely gorgeous outside today, so this is the first opportunity I've had to check iVillage. I do hear you about lack of insight on Cafe Mom, though. I've posted there before with a "whole lotta nothing" in the way of responses. It is a bit slower here, but I'm sure more people will chime in. Welcome to the village!

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