We think our son is being bullied

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-20-2007
We think our son is being bullied
17
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 12:31pm

I am a member on the Expecting boards for April 08, but am also a mom of a 13 year old boy. My son has ADHD, but it is controlled through medication, and we think he is a good kid, great sense of humor, but highly sensitive. He is at a school that is grade 7-12, and up until he attended this school he has had a lot of friends, and hung out with the more popular kids. This year we have seen a big change in his personality. His grades have dropped, his friends don't call anymore, and he just seems sad. A few months ago, we started to get prank calls at home. Pretty silly phone calls, nothing harmful, but I was upset enough to tell the kids to stop calling our house. (we received about a dozen prank calls in one month, including two on Christmas day.) These kids are using cell phones, and the phone #'s come up as unknown name, unknown number so we can't call back. Twice the same kid called, and I knew his name, and I know his mom. I told him I knew who he was, and that I would tell his mom he has been misusing his cell phone. The prank calls stopped.


That was a month ago. Since then, our son has not wanted to go to school. He calls us from the school at least once a week saying he doesn't feel well, and would like to come home. When he is home, he prefers to lock himself in his room and play video games.


Monday, I came into work, and there was a message on my answering machine (all his friends know I own a business, and it is a pretty popular retail store in our town.) The message on the machine was horrific. It was a teenaged boy, and he said him and his friends took my 3 year old daughter, raped her, and they explained in detail what they did to her. I burst out crying....hearing someone say those things about your baby literally makes you temporarily insane. I called the police, an officer was here in minutes, and I told him everything that has been happening with the prank calls at home, with my son having problems at school etc. He filled out a police report, but said there is nothing he can do as it is unknown name, unknown number.


Our son just called me again, he wants to come home, he sounded like he had been crying. I called the school back, and left a message that I want the principal to call me this afternoon to discuss some problems we are having. I don't know what else to do. Our son will not open up to us, he says there are no problems, but both my husband and I sense something is up. We want to suggest that he switch schools next year for grade 9, something he has already expressed interest in doing. Will that solve things?


Please, if anyone has any advice, I would sure appreciate it. I was picked on as a child, and I know how much it hurts. I hate seeing my son going through this, and it makes me so angry at these punks!!!!

Photobucket

 

Photobucket

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2004
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 12:40pm
((((((((((((((((((((((( HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
to you and your family. I think you need to get to the bottom of this. There is more than just bulling going on. It sounds much worse. Good for you about getting the school involved. Talk to his teachers and see what is going on. Hopefully it can get under control. As for the phone calls call the phone company and put a trace on the telephone numbers and calls. They will be able to find out who calls and leaves messages like that. i dont blame you for being upset. I would have been too. Take care and keep us informed.
Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2005
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 1:55pm

I'm shocked that the police didn't contact the phone co. to find where the call came in from.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-20-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 2:03pm

To be honest, the cop didn't seem to be taking it seriously at all. He kept looking at my pregnant belly. I asked him if he deemed the call threatening, and he said no, but did say that

 

Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 2:39pm
(((HUGS))) to you, and good for you for taking action! You are a good mom. I am sure it is absolutely heartwrenching to see your son going through this. I would love to get a hold of those kids and throttle them!!!! I hope the school reacts appropriately.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-29-2003
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 3:03pm

I also hope you're able to get to the bottom of this soon, as I remember the terror of being bullied. It's nothing any child should have to go through, yet so many do.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-1998
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 4:01pm

That's horrific and the cop should have known it. Threatening messages should always be taken seriously. And I'm a little surprised his teachers and guidance counselor did not notice the drop in grades. That's

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2006
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 5:16pm

I sorry your having to deal with this. Please keep us posted on what the school does.


Community Leader
Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 10:33pm
I would be calling the cops and asking what the next step is!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 11:31pm

Oh my gosh, not even cool at all!


Powered by CGISpy.com
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2005
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 9:04am
Oh, Kris, that is just heartbreaking.

Pages