We think our son is being bullied
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| Thu, 02-14-2008 - 12:31pm |
I am a member on the Expecting boards for April 08, but am also a mom of a 13 year old boy. My son has ADHD, but it is controlled through medication, and we think he is a good kid, great sense of humor, but highly sensitive. He is at a school that is grade 7-12, and up until he attended this school he has had a lot of friends, and hung out with the more popular kids. This year we have seen a big change in his personality. His grades have dropped, his friends don't call anymore, and he just seems sad. A few months ago, we started to get prank calls at home. Pretty silly phone calls, nothing harmful, but I was upset enough to tell the kids to stop calling our house. (we received about a dozen prank calls in one month, including two on Christmas day.) These kids are using cell phones, and the phone #'s come up as unknown name, unknown number so we can't call back. Twice the same kid called, and I knew his name, and I know his mom. I told him I knew who he was, and that I would tell his mom he has been misusing his cell phone. The prank calls stopped.
That was a month ago. Since then, our son has not wanted to go to school. He calls us from the school at least once a week saying he doesn't feel well, and would like to come home. When he is home, he prefers to lock himself in his room and play video games.
Monday, I came into work, and there was a message on my answering machine (all his friends know I own a business, and it is a pretty popular retail store in our town.) The message on the machine was horrific. It was a teenaged boy, and he said him and his friends took my 3 year old daughter, raped her, and they explained in detail what they did to her. I burst out crying....hearing someone say those things about your baby literally makes you temporarily insane. I called the police, an officer was here in minutes, and I told him everything that has been happening with the prank calls at home, with my son having problems at school etc. He filled out a police report, but said there is nothing he can do as it is unknown name, unknown number.
Our son just called me again, he wants to come home, he sounded like he had been crying. I called the school back, and left a message that I want the principal to call me this afternoon to discuss some problems we are having. I don't know what else to do. Our son will not open up to us, he says there are no problems, but both my husband and I sense something is up. We want to suggest that he switch schools next year for grade 9, something he has already expressed interest in doing. Will that solve things?
Please, if anyone has any advice, I would sure appreciate it. I was picked on as a child, and I know how much it hurts. I hate seeing my son going through this, and it makes me so angry at these punks!!!!



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to you and your family. I think you need to get to the bottom of this. There is more than just bulling going on. It sounds much worse. Good for you about getting the school involved. Talk to his teachers and see what is going on. Hopefully it can get under control. As for the phone calls call the phone company and put a trace on the telephone numbers and calls. They will be able to find out who calls and leaves messages like that. i dont blame you for being upset. I would have been too. Take care and keep us informed.
I'm shocked that the police didn't contact the phone co. to find where the call came in from.
To be honest, the cop didn't seem to be taking it seriously at all. He kept looking at my pregnant belly. I asked him if he deemed the call threatening, and he said no, but did say that
I also hope you're able to get to the bottom of this soon, as I remember the terror of being bullied. It's nothing any child should have to go through, yet so many do.
That's horrific and the cop should have known it. Threatening messages should always be taken seriously. And I'm a little surprised his teachers and guidance counselor did not notice the drop in grades. That's
I sorry your having to deal with this. Please keep us posted on what the school does.
Ramona Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!
Oh my gosh, not even cool at all!
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