We think our son is being bullied

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We think our son is being bullied
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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 12:31pm

I am a member on the Expecting boards for April 08, but am also a mom of a 13 year old boy. My son has ADHD, but it is controlled through medication, and we think he is a good kid, great sense of humor, but highly sensitive. He is at a school that is grade 7-12, and up until he attended this school he has had a lot of friends, and hung out with the more popular kids. This year we have seen a big change in his personality. His grades have dropped, his friends don't call anymore, and he just seems sad. A few months ago, we started to get prank calls at home. Pretty silly phone calls, nothing harmful, but I was upset enough to tell the kids to stop calling our house. (we received about a dozen prank calls in one month, including two on Christmas day.) These kids are using cell phones, and the phone #'s come up as unknown name, unknown number so we can't call back. Twice the same kid called, and I knew his name, and I know his mom. I told him I knew who he was, and that I would tell his mom he has been misusing his cell phone. The prank calls stopped.


That was a month ago. Since then, our son has not wanted to go to school. He calls us from the school at least once a week saying he doesn't feel well, and would like to come home. When he is home, he prefers to lock himself in his room and play video games.


Monday, I came into work, and there was a message on my answering machine (all his friends know I own a business, and it is a pretty popular retail store in our town.) The message on the machine was horrific. It was a teenaged boy, and he said him and his friends took my 3 year old daughter, raped her, and they explained in detail what they did to her. I burst out crying....hearing someone say those things about your baby literally makes you temporarily insane. I called the police, an officer was here in minutes, and I told him everything that has been happening with the prank calls at home, with my son having problems at school etc. He filled out a police report, but said there is nothing he can do as it is unknown name, unknown number.


Our son just called me again, he wants to come home, he sounded like he had been crying. I called the school back, and left a message that I want the principal to call me this afternoon to discuss some problems we are having. I don't know what else to do. Our son will not open up to us, he says there are no problems, but both my husband and I sense something is up. We want to suggest that he switch schools next year for grade 9, something he has already expressed interest in doing. Will that solve things?


Please, if anyone has any advice, I would sure appreciate it. I was picked on as a child, and I know how much it hurts. I hate seeing my son going through this, and it makes me so angry at these punks!!!!

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Fri, 02-15-2008 - 11:16am
Please let us know how everything is going.
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Registered: 08-08-2005
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 4:24pm

Kris,


I am so sorry you guys are going through this, it must be heartbreaking for you and dh.

Angel

Wife to Wayne, Mommy to Tyler (15), Nickolas (3) and Noah (1)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 4:31pm

Kris,


Angel typed the thoughts right out of my brain.

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Fri, 02-15-2008 - 6:00pm

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Registered: 04-26-2007
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 12:22am
OMG!!! That cop sounds like an idiot, who also sounds like he liked your pregnant belly!
Maybe you should consider going to his boss, or the head of that police dept. Your son should name some names of kids harrassing him and stick up for himself by going to the cops. The rape thing got to me. I have 3 girls, one is 2 1/2....I would have been nuts about that and would do anything in my power to get that kid in big time trouble.
Don't give up. Do you think your son would take a self-defense course like karate or something? I would think it would give him more confidence in protecting himself.
This all sounds so terrible. like something worse could happen.
Please consider going to another cop or his boss.
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Registered: 04-26-2007
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 12:25am
Also, don't delete that message, if you haven't already...I would keep that for evidence.
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Sun, 02-17-2008 - 3:51pm

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