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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 10:12am

Linda, a single woman in her mid-thirties, has difficulty relating to men. She has never been married and does not feel confident in her ability to find a man to love in her life as she does not believe in relationships. Even when men are interested in her, she does not reciprocate the interest as she is afraid of men and envisions relationships as a sacrifice and slavery. However, she does not want to give up hope on having a child of her own. A long time friend of the family emerged and asked her if she would consider having a baby together with him and raise the child separately as he is gay. The details of how the child will be raised in a shared situation and with one of the two households being gay were not discussed yet but they both agreed that the most important thing will be to ensure that the child will have a chance to a loving and stable environment. The biological clock is ticking and Linda has a hard time making a decision. What would you recommend to Linda?


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Sat, 08-11-2007 - 2:41pm

Yes, I do.

I married someone I was in love with. We waited years to have children. He decided family life wasn't for him and our marriage crumbled. He moved across the country and now has very little to do with his children - including supporting them financially. I felt we did everything "right" and it still didn't work.

Melanie

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Sat, 08-11-2007 - 2:44pm

But a romantic relationship and a parent relationship are soooo different! I know many moms who have a problem taking care of the man in their lives, but have no problem sacrificing for their children. It's not really comparible.

Melanie

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