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| Wed, 11-15-2006 - 8:37am |
I Was Wednesday Wondering....
What roll does your DH/SO play in your home?
| Wed, 11-15-2006 - 8:37am |
I Was Wednesday Wondering....
What roll does your DH/SO play in your home?
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I dont believe they should "help out."
What roll does your DH/SO play in your home? Does he help with the kids & housework, or does he just allow you do to it? My husband is Active Duty Military so I'm pretty much a single mom with an extra person's dirty laundry that shows up at strange times of the day. He learned early on that when he gets home his work isn't done. Even when he has a bad day, once he comes through that door he's a member of this household team and he immediately helps me. When the kids were younger he'd take care of them to give me a break. Now his main evening role is supervising the kids' cleaning operations in the kitchen. Once I'm done with dinner, they take over the kitchen. He deals with the bickering and makes them redo their chores till they're done right. He's the one that will enforce saturday morning housecleaning on them too. Not to say I don't clean anything :) but he makes sure the kids are actively helping to care for our home and take pride in the house. My true love! :)
Do belive that it is a 50/50 thing and they should help out? Or do you belive a man's job isn't to help out around the house? I don't believe in a 50/50 split because I only work part-time so I have plenty of time for housework (doesn't mean I enjoy it). IF he brings home a bag of nasty laundry he won't hesitate to run a load of laundry. If he gets home before I do, he cooks dinner without being asked. I guess we've just grown up together working as a team and it's not an issue of his/her chores. For the most part he doesn't see helping out as chores but more as keeping things running smoothly at home. He's just as quick to do laundry as I am to wash a car or mow the grass if he's not around to do it.
Share your thoughts and how things work in your home! I think that our idea of teamwork is what keeps things running around here. My kids know I'm not thier maid, in fact I'm known more for throwing things away when they get left laying around too long. I know I'm very lucky with my DH. We married pretty young and literally grew up together as we took off in the military for far-off places. It works for us! Plus he figured out really early in our marriage that the less help I got around the house, the faster I fell asleep at night! :)
Denise
What role does your DH/SO play in your home?
Dh and I pretty much work as team both with the housework and with the kids. We agreed when we first got married that we would bothjust
Linda
mom to
Alex (16), Rachel (14), Matthew (12)
I do most of the cleaning. DH sometimes will get on a kick and vaccuum. He just doesn't NOTICE any mess and it doesn't bother him. He will do what I ask him to do--he said he prefers that--but then I feel like a nagging wife.
When he does see a mess, he is quick to tell the kids to pick it up. (Yes, our kids need to do more around here, but so could he!).
He has been working out of town for awhile (back on weekends and once in the middle of the week) so he hasn't really been here to help--or make a mess!!!
He has always helped with the kids, even when they were little. But with him being gone so much, it's mostly fallen on me.
And I do have to give him credit for putting the sheets on the bed. That is one job I hate, and he does that.
Karin
If you don't have a DHorSO in the home, what are your thoughts--what roll would you like a SO to play in the home?
I would expect him to help out around the house. Clean, cook, mow the lawn. Though not all the time it should be a 50/50. But in my circumstances i do not know if i could trust a man enough to do that. I have been doing it for quite sometime by myself that if i was to have a so, he would just get in my way. I like doing all those things. And to have someone else do it for me or help me he would do it wrong. But thats just me. Oh and dont even go near the child. I have issues when it comes to someone else teaching or telling my kid no when i am around.
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