At what age does a child need to be....

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Tue, 10-21-2008 - 9:14pm

At what age does a child need to be held responsible for actions?
My son is 9 and has been having trouble at school for the last few years (long story).. I have thought about this topic and dont really know the right answer. When does it become his responsiblity to make sure he has his homework done? Or brings everything home? Or fails a paper/subject? Or fail

 

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Mon, 10-27-2008 - 9:50am

Amy, I agree with you to some extinct.

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Registered: 10-27-2008
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 10:21am

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Registered: 08-29-2003
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 11:14am

Gianna became about 90% responsible for her own homework assignments at age 10. At DDs school, her fifth grade teachers told the kids at the beginning of the school year that they would be doing a lot of things to help prepare them for middle school the following year.

 

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Registered: 10-27-2008
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 1:32pm
I would think that any parents job is to make sure the children have homework ready, and completed to turn in. I alway follow up at night to make sure my sons stuff is in his backpack.
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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 10:18am

That is a good idea. Then they get in the habit of doing it too.

Amy!!!

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 3:05pm
You are not alone I feel that a lot of parents that I talk to are going through the same situation. With me its a little different. My oldest daughter is only 7 and she does her homework packet the same day she gets it before I even come from work but my daughter who is 5 years old needs a lot of help I know that its her first year but I noticed that my daughters are completely different in this area. My 5 year old needs me to sit there with her the whole time so I sit with her 10 minutes a day and it has truly helped her she is improving and really getting into the routine also she understands the responsibility now. I think that because we have more than one child it gets difficult because you have to concentrate on just one child to finish their homework and the other children get frustrated my 3 year old son would get like this until I bought him a book and sit him down to pretend he is doing homework too. My suggestion is to keep on working with him it takes time for some kids but you have to keep on trying. My sister in law is 15 years old and when she was younger she had a hard time with homework she was only 9 yrs old when she started lying that she had finished it at

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 6:34pm

Hi there!

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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 4:58pm

I think at 4th grade, it's too young to consider them completely responsible. However, I do think that they should be able to remember to bring their assignments home at night, and most schools give kids assignment notebooks that the teacher has kids fill in, and then the parents have to sign it once the homework is complete. I'm 22, and that's how it was for me in grade school, and that's how it is for my young cousins. But let me tell you, out of all the grades I've been through, including college, 4th grade has always been remembered as the toughest. For me, that was the grade that real learning began. The math and science turned very difficult, mostly because that was when simple algebra

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