What to do?

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Registered: 02-12-1998
What to do?
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 11:31am
Boy, I need some opinions on this one.

Our house is right next to the common areas of the neighborhood;playground, pool, open spaces. We have a rear-entry garage and theres a huge area back there. We put up one of the new basketball hoops last fall. Our house attracts kids unbelievably, which I love. I like my kids home and enjoy that others feel free to come on over and join that basketball extravaganza.

However....there a few kids in the neighborhood that are just undesirable. I really don't want my kids hanging out with them. One is in 6th grade and his brother in 3rd. They have an older really nice brother who is 14. This weekend they found their way to our house and were playing with my kids. My sons are 10 and 7. I also don't really want teenagers hanging out there either.

How to I handle this. I can't come out and say, "go home, you are not welcome". But I don't want them to come over. ONe of the kids is known to steal and I don't want him around our open garage.

Any suggestions how to handle this one. If it was nicer weather, I would be more apt to just go sit outside while they were there, but it's cold right now and I don't want to have to go do that.

I hate this.

conmama

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Registered: 05-02-2003
In reply to: conmama
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 3:54pm

Ugh!!

Sherrie Rainbow

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Registered: 07-30-1997
In reply to: conmama
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 3:59pm
You could certainly tell them they have to call you first and get permission to come over, and after a few denials they might figure it out...but at least it's not outright saying no! Good luck; sticky situation.

Sue

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Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: conmama
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 11:29pm
ICK...what a yucky situation you are in.

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Registered: 02-12-1998
In reply to: conmama
Wed, 03-10-2004 - 11:44am
You are all absolutely right. I cannot say anything to these boys unless something specific occurs. I will either have to just brave the weather OR (I have another idea), when I don't feel like doing that, I can call my boys in! I just hope they don't come around much.

Thanks!

conmama

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Registered: 04-15-2004
In reply to: conmama
Thu, 04-15-2004 - 1:10am
Just explain to all the kids that come over that you have to "close" the court down for now because some things are missing from the garage/area. That you are "sorry", but someone has broken your trust, and that's what it's all about. If someone isn't going to respect others private property, then everyone looses out!!! If the person who took the items can return them, then maybe the area could be re-opened again. "Community" they are apart of a community of children who want to use anothers persons area for playing and hanging out.....what if that property where theirs or their families?