whining

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2008
whining
5
Wed, 01-30-2008 - 3:32pm

My daughter isn't officially a tween yet (b-day not til Mar) but I thought this age group would fit her best. Anyways, my problem is that she recently started back talking and whining A LOT more than just regular "little girl whining" that all girls/women are programed with. And frankly, it's starting to tick me right off! I've tried everything from spanking, to grounding.


She is really such a sweet, caring, respectful, compassionate girl. I am so very proud of her. She's great a school, at church, at friend's and family members' homes. Everyone comments on how well behaved and also how sweet our children are. And my husband and I agree. But, lately she doesn't seem to really respect our authority. It's kind of heartbreaking. We have to literally yell at her before she'll listen, and it's very irritating! And if we punish her for it she breaks down and sobs, not cry, I literally mean she actually sobs as if we just broke her heart. She has also been rude and bossy with her siblings.


The thing is we know she is truly a very good little girl. She is so full of love for us (her parents) and her family. She's a wonderful friend to her friends and she's so sweet to others everywhere she goes. She loves the Lord with all of her heart and sincerely feels sad when she knows she has gone against us or God.


We are at our wits end and are open to any suggestions. Does anyone have any for us?

Avatar for sesamemom98
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tinabena77
Wed, 01-30-2008 - 3:54pm

Tina,


Welcome!

Thanks to Kelly (mom2emsopmax) for my beautiful siggy! Photobucket
Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
In reply to: tinabena77
Wed, 01-30-2008 - 5:11pm

I use to be one of those whiney children (yes I'll admit it) and would talk in the baby voice and so on.

Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2003
In reply to: tinabena77
Wed, 01-30-2008 - 10:40pm

Oh man doesn't that just grate on the nerves, ugh!!!!


The moodiness you are speaking of is very normal tween behavior.


Powered by CGISpy.com
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-05-2007
In reply to: tinabena77
Thu, 01-31-2008 - 5:18pm

If anyone has a secret aside from putting them in a boarding school like the English do....they'd make a "bloody" fortune!!


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2004
In reply to: tinabena77
Thu, 01-31-2008 - 5:41pm
My dd does this well. I wine back to her in the same voice, i am sorry i cant understand you and if your not going to talk to me in a normal voice then neither am I. then it got to the point she did not want to know that i could do that better than her so she changed. and now i just look at her and she talks normal. good luck and welcome to the board.