WWYD – sexually explicit drawings

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Registered: 09-28-2008
WWYD – sexually explicit drawings
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Sun, 09-28-2008 - 12:16am
I have a daughter who recently turned 13. She has always been an artist, but she stopped showing me her drawings and paintings a while back. She told me they were personal and I wasn’t allowed to see them anymore. Recently I was putting away laundry and I noticed a sketchbook. I decided to take a peek and what I saw shocked me. Page after page after page it was nothing but sexually explicit female with female drawings. The styles differed from cartoon manga drawings to real life portrait type sketches. I searched her room and found paintings that had almost the exact same things going on. I found a couple of sketchbooks with manga style comics with page after page ranging from simple hand holding to stuff I won’t describe.



I put everything back and I haven’t said anything at all yet. I am freaking out because my daughter spends several hours every day drawing and THAT is the stuff she is creating! I’m the one buying here all these sketchbooks, pencils, paints and other supplies.



What do you think is the best way to approach this? I’m not sure if I should say anything and if I do say something I have no idea where to even start. I don’t even know where she is getting the ideas for this sort of stuff. A few of the drawings suggested she might be doing some of these things with her friends. I feel so incredibly freaked out and uncomfortable about everything! What would you do?
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Registered: 03-07-2008
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 1:58pm
I don't think I'd say anything. What you've seen isn't dangerous or anything like that. It sounds like her curiosity about her sexuality might be coming out in drawings.
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Registered: 03-25-2008
Tue, 09-30-2008 - 4:48pm
I agree with the previous poster. It is probably your daughter's way of coming out and exploring her feelings. My son did some similar things. He is still not entirely certain about his sexual identity and he is 17.
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Registered: 03-27-2005
Wed, 10-01-2008 - 8:23am

I would find out what her influences are.