ABORTION!!!

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Registered: 09-19-2009
ABORTION!!!
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Sat, 09-19-2009 - 12:51pm

First and foremost I just wanna say that I am not judging or condemning anyone who has done this or even thinking about it. But I do know that it is not the best decision to make. No matter what the situation is, whether it was because something horrible happened or you can't afford to take care of the baby or you're just not ready, the baby does not deserve to die. There are plenty of people who are more the capable to take of the child for you, but are not able to have children, myself included. Now if you did have an abortion once before its okay, God still loves you and as long as you repent he will forgive you. So if you are thinking of getting an abortion please think about all those women out there who can't have kids, if anything i will take the baby and take care of it. It has been my dream to be a mother but am not able to conceive. So please give the child a chance to live.

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Registered: 01-15-2008
In reply to: tesmith6107
Sat, 09-19-2009 - 7:20pm

* smacking head against desk*



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In reply to: tesmith6107
Sat, 09-19-2009 - 8:29pm

I'm sorry that you are unable to conceive a child and I can imagine how difficult it must be knowing that women are aborting their pregnanices. But it is morally and legally absurd to expect a woman to gestate an unwanted pregnancy in order for you (general you) to have a baby. Women who are forced into gestating a pregnancy would be broodmares, incubators.


I also wonder whether you've looked into adopting children from foster care/state care. There are thousands and thousands of children needing forever homes. I would never, ever advocate that women be forced to continue a pregnancy, but the "lots of people would take that baby" argument holds even less water when there are already so many children needing a family.

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Registered: 05-06-2007
In reply to: tesmith6107
Sat, 09-19-2009 - 10:03pm

Sorry you have had trouble TTC.


That being said, you do not know every woman's situation and thus cannot make this ridiculous statement--"But I do know that it is not the best decision to make."


You dont know me.

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Registered: 01-22-2009
In reply to: tesmith6107
Sun, 09-20-2009 - 12:53am

Hi, and welcome to the board :) Just to clarify, most who post here have not aborted.

Re: "no matter what the situation is", I aborted due to medical emergency. It wasn't a matter of whether or not anybody "deserved to die".

My action does not require repentance. In fact, the Talmud indicates that women whose lives are in danger due to a pregnancy must abort.

Re: adopting, perhaps when you are older and ready to be a parent you might be interested in adopting one (or more) of the more than 100,000 children in the US who have special needs and are waiting to be adopted (most of whom will never find a family).

That would be super, and I'd be glad to help with contact information re: free special needs adoption through social services in your area, etc..

Take care :)

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Registered: 05-02-2006
In reply to: tesmith6107
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 3:35pm

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I have to ask how you can possibly know every single woman's situation so intimately that you know abortion is not the best decision.

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Registered: 01-19-2006
In reply to: tesmith6107
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 3:54pm

*Sigh*


I smell a drive by posting, but I'll bite.


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Wow, you really know that? About every woman out there who's ever had, or is contemplating an abortion? Of course I'm being sarcastic, as the comment (as well as the argument) is completely ridiculous.


As for the plight of sterile couples, I echo what the other posters have said - it's a difficult argument to swallow when there are so many unwanted babies and children in the world. I don't mean to come off sounding flippant, but let's get real, here.


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Forgive you for what? Making the most difficult decison of your life? Having a safe, legal procedure rather than a botched back alley one? And as other posters have so succinently pointed out, the whole God/religion argument holds no merit, either, when not everyone here believes as you do.


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I'm sorry for you. I truly am. But your inability to conceive does not equate to forcing pregnancy and childbirth upon an unwilling woman. And I just have to ask = would you, as the adoptive mother, really be ok with that? That this girl/woman has been *forced*, against her will, to undergo the risks of carrying and delivering a baby...just for YOU?! No matter what the consequences? If you're really ok with that, I just have to shudder. I really do.




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Registered: 08-24-2006
In reply to: tesmith6107
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 4:12am

"No matter what the situation is, whether it was because something horrible happened or you can't afford to take care of the baby or you're just not ready, the baby does not deserve to die."

I'm not pregnant, have not had an abortion, and it's incredibly unlikely that I could get pregnant, but if I did I would have an abortion. I have to take serious psychiatric medications daily or else my life and safety are in jeopardy. Those medications cannot be taken during pregnancy. They will harm the fetus. Not to mention any baby I have runs the risk of having mental illness also, and after what I have gone through and what I continue to go through every day that is not something I would ever knowingly put a child at risk for.

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Registered: 02-06-2009
In reply to: tesmith6107
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 1:17pm

I'm fairly sure this is a drive-by, so I'll just answer one point (because I can't let it go ;oD)

If God caused a wanted pregnancy to endanger the mother's life, or allowed a wanted fetus to have a terminal defect, or allowed a rape victim to become pregnant, thus FORCING the women involved to abort, wouldn't HE be the one who should repent?

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Registered: 01-15-2008
In reply to: tesmith6107
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 10:22pm
Hahahaha, good show! LOL yeah I'm pretty sure this is a drive-by now ;)

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Registered: 02-06-2009
In reply to: tesmith6107
Thu, 09-24-2009 - 5:44am

It's a shame, because I'd LOVE to hear the answer to my question ;o)

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