Interesting article I came across:
It's very thoughtful. Took me a paragraph or two to really get into it, while she set the stage by referring to another writer's work - but her points near the middle and end are potent. There's much of it that I'm tempted to paste in here... definitely do go read it!
Her thoughts connect back to our discussion of selective reduction of multiples. She saw the unplanned pregnancy as a threat to her parenting of her two daughters. The same way that many women without children write about sacrificing a gestation for a better chance in the future to be able to be the kind of mother they want to be, and their children deserve.
"For if a pregnant woman has dominion over life, why should she not also have dominion over not-life? This is a concept understood by many other cultures. The Hindu goddess Kali is both Mother of the Whole Universe, and Devourer of All Things. She is life and death. If women are, by biology, commanded to host, shelter, nurture and protect life, why should they not be empowered to end life, too? I’m not advocating stoving in the heads of children, or encouraging late abortions — but then, no one is. What I am vexed with is the idea that, by having an early abortion, a woman is somehow being unfemale and, indeed, unmotherly. That the absolute essence of womanhood and maternity is to sustain life, at all costs, whatever the situation."
Are we, women, goddesses of life? Are we creators? We "involuntarily" create our children. We "involuntarily" grow them in our womb...but do we really have the right to end life, as she suggests? Apparently we do...."Why should they (women), not be empowered to end life, too?"...we are.
That's a very powerful responsibility when you think about it. Only women can choose life...(or death) for their children..(regardless of the name you give it...fetus/offspring/child...still the same being)...pretty powerful...and I think that *is* why many women do struggle with this decision, before and after their abortions, because it is she and she alone who ultimately makes the decision.