Abortion - the ultimate motherly act

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Abortion - the ultimate motherly act
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 4:44am
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Registered: 01-07-2007
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 8:15am
She makes some great points. Thanks for sharing!
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Registered: 06-03-2007
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 8:31am

It's very thoughtful. Took me a paragraph or two to really get into it, while she set the stage by referring to another writer's work - but her points near the middle and end are potent. There's much of it that I'm tempted to paste in here... definitely do go read it!

Her thoughts connect back to our discussion of selective reduction of multiples. She saw the unplanned pregnancy as a threat to her parenting of her two daughters. The same way that many women without children write about sacrificing a gestation for a better chance in the future to be able to be the kind of mother they want to be, and their children deserve.

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Registered: 05-06-2007
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 8:57am
I thought this was a great article and her ending points of not wanting to sacrifce the quality of life for her daughters really hit close to home. This same thinking definitely played a huge role in my decision to terminate and it's refreshing to hear a woman who is ok with her decision speak positively about it.

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 9:49am

"For if a pregnant woman has dominion over life, why should she not also have dominion over not-life? This is a concept understood by many other cultures. The Hindu goddess Kali is both Mother of the Whole Universe, and Devourer of All Things. She is life and death. If women are, by biology, commanded to host, shelter, nurture and protect life, why should they not be empowered to end life, too? I’m not advocating stoving in the heads of children, or encouraging late abortions — but then, no one is. What I am vexed with is the idea that, by having an early abortion, a woman is somehow being unfemale and, indeed, unmotherly. That the absolute essence of womanhood and maternity is to sustain life, at all costs, whatever the situation."

Are we, women, goddesses of life? Are we creators? We "involuntarily" create our children. We "involuntarily" grow them in our womb...but do we really have the right to end life, as she suggests? Apparently we do...."Why should they (women), not be empowered to end life, too?"...we are.

That's a very powerful responsibility when you think about it. Only women can choose life...(or death) for their children..(regardless of the name you give it...fetus/offspring/child...still the same being)...pretty powerful...and I think that *is* why many women do struggle with this decision, before and after their abortions, because it is she and she alone who ultimately makes the decision.

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Registered: 08-18-2006
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 4:20pm
I totally agree. Although I dont have otehr children, I had my abortion because I wnated more for my future family than that situation had to offer
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Sat, 06-30-2007 - 2:39pm
thank you :)
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Registered: 10-12-2006
Sat, 06-30-2007 - 3:58pm
Thanks for the article Lianne! She has some..interesting points to ponder. I just wanted to share with all of you that both my kids were unplanned,nor did they come at desirable times especially my second...I found out I was pregnant again when my first was 3 months old.
My concerns were that my first wouldn't get to be a baby and he would have to share me. I also worried because my husband had just gone back to school and I was on maternity leave.How were we going to afford this? how was I going to do taking care of two babies? I also just plain did not want to be pregnant again!I cried for about two hours when I found out and was depressed for weeks! But now I am so very glad to have Cassidy and I would not ever change a thing! My kids play wonderful together and love each other very much......you just never know how things will turn out :)
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Registered: 06-03-2007
Sat, 06-30-2007 - 7:47pm
I'm so glad that worked out for you! Sometimes I wish I could have twins now, because I know I don't have another good time to be pregnant until I'm at least halfway through residency, which will mean 4 or 5 years between pregnancies and I wouldn't want to wait so long...but then it seems overwhelming to have two so small. Doesn't Myshka have twins already, with more on the way? Y'all are very energetic women. I'm impressed.
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Registered: 01-07-2007
Sat, 06-30-2007 - 9:52pm
I told my husband if he wanted more than one he better hope he knocks me up with twins, lol. Right now, which is certainly not the best time to make the decision, I don't want to ever be pregnant again!
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Registered: 06-03-2007
Sat, 06-30-2007 - 10:20pm
Heehee. I've heard women say that you're supposed to get sick and tired of being pregnant near the end to counteract fear of labor. I've been loving it, but I miss my glass of wine with dinner. I'm not even showing yet so I'm sure there's plenty of rollercoaster moments ahead of me!
You're actually in the end zone, even if it's more likely that you have a week or so left.

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