After the abortion?

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Registered: 10-28-2005
After the abortion?
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Wed, 05-12-2010 - 10:00am
If someone has had an abortion, do you talk about it? Or is it a non-issue anymore? How do you deal with the feelings? Should a future spouse be told that they had an abortion?


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Registered: 08-10-2009
Sat, 05-22-2010 - 11:55am

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My closer friends know that I am pro-choice and have had it. I've had quite a few close female friends come to me for advice and questions and I am more then happy to talk to them about it. I have a couple of friends that it comes up in conversations and I don't mind talking about it. However its not a topic I usually start. Theres too many judgmental people that I don't want to risk being ridiculed for talking about it as I am pro-choice.

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I don't have any issue with anyone's personal stance on it, or any issues with anyone whos decided thats what was best for them.

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I'm not sure what feelings you are referring to. Are you talking about my personal feeling about my choice? Theres nothing to deal with there. I am completely satisfied with my choice and would not change it for anything. No depression, what ifs or anything. The pros by far out weighed the cons.

Or if you mean how do I deal with how other people feel about my choice, I normally don't tell them unless we are close enough that I know they won't talk bad to me or think less of who I am.

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I am very pro-choice. I am a very outspoken and strongly opinionated person. So yes, in my case it would be important that anyone I felt I was going to be with to know how I feel, why and my personal experience on the topic. My current SO knows and when I talked to him about it, I found out that his first girlfriend, when he was 18, also had one (that was his). He had 2 boys with his ex wife, whom he was with for 6 years. I don't believe that it is nessicary for everyone to disclose that type of thing as I do realize there are some women out there that is not a secure and happy with their choice and if that was something they wanted to leave private the rest of their lives and could deal with that in that way, I would say they should be able to do so.

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Wed, 05-12-2010 - 3:18pm

I would think that the answers to those questions would be dependent upon the particular woman and could vary from woman to woman.

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Registered: 05-06-2007
Wed, 05-12-2010 - 1:27pm

It's different for everyone, but I find that most people who talk about their experience with abortion are those who are comfortable with their decision, as it was the best choice for them in their situation.

I dont think it is necessary to tell your spouse since it's a private medical matter, however, I would hope that women who've had an abortion are in good enough marriages to disclose that information to their spouse.

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Registered: 11-29-2005
Wed, 05-12-2010 - 10:47am

I have a friend who's had an abortion, while we were friends.

 


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