BC, Abortion and Fertillity Tx?

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BC, Abortion and Fertillity Tx?
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Sun, 02-01-2009 - 5:27pm

Hey all!


I was reading a blog the other day and the author claimed that if you were "pro-choice" than you also support women's access to fertillity treatment.

 

 

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Registered: 09-15-2008
Mon, 02-02-2009 - 5:25pm

""Sadly, in her case, getting her tubes tied would not prevent her from having any more children. She would need to get a hysterectomy, which I haven't heard has been performed.""

That wasn't my point...my point was that *SHE* is able to get this kind of fertility treatment, but *I* can't get a tubal, and neither can many, many childfree women. People say that anything that would have hindered her access to IVF would be imposing beliefs on her, deciding if she's "worthy" of having kids, etc...but no one seems to bat an eye when childfree women are denied sterilization. I'm just pointing out the irony.

""This mom's a head-case, but not as bad a head-case as her IVF team.

Where did she get the money to have IVF performed?""

Oh I agree. I blogged at length about this last night because I was so angry. (http://navywifeadventures.blogspot.com)


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Mon, 02-02-2009 - 5:28pm
I think for some the idea of a child that's even partially biologically there's is very important. Most women take it for granted that if they want children they will bear said children and experience all the "wonders" of pregnancy and birth.
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Registered: 12-12-2008
Tue, 02-03-2009 - 1:06pm
Are you saying that if a woman chooses to voluntarily be sterilized because she knows she does not want children, she can't?
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Tue, 02-03-2009 - 3:16pm

""Are you saying that if a woman chooses to voluntarily be sterilized because she knows she does not want children, she can't? Is there a law about this, or is it some doctors, or what? I'm curious to understand what you're talking about. Thanks.""

There's no LAW, but it's like pulling teeth to find a doctor who will *DO* it. It's a very common topic on childfree boards, and a source of great frustration for many childfree women. I know very, VERY few childfree women who have been able to obtain permanent sterilization without fighting for it.

So it annoys me to no end that someone who CLEARLY has no business having even ONE more child can get a doctor to implant EIGHT embryos. People say "you can't interfere with her right to have children, you can't impose your beliefs on her reproductive rights", yet doctors do it every day to women who DON'T want children. Doctors impose their beliefs on women's reproductive rights every day...so it's a double standard that annoys me.


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Tue, 02-03-2009 - 3:36pm

On what basis do doctors refuse?

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Tue, 02-03-2009 - 5:41pm

Oh yes I totally get that. What I don't understand is why use a donor egg (thus the child won't be biologically yours) rather than adopting. And I REALLY don't get the use of a surrogate with donor material.

But like I said, I'd never try to ban anyone from doing that.

BTW, I love your horses ;oD

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Registered: 09-15-2008
Tue, 02-03-2009 - 6:45pm

""On what basis do doctors refuse? What do they say to women? "Sorry, but I won't perform the surgery because I think that you might change your mind and want a baby?"""

Usually it's "You'll change your mind." That's the main reason that the vast, vast, VAST majority of doctors I contacted wouldn't even speak to me about it. (Ironically, no one questioned me when I wanted fertility treatments years ago...now, tell me which is LESS reversible: Having a baby, or getting a tubal!)


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Tue, 02-03-2009 - 7:54pm
Unbelievable!
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Fri, 02-06-2009 - 4:42pm

"Doctors impose their beliefs on women's reproductive rights every day...so it's a double standard that annoys me."

It's like women trying for a VBAC. I don't know of any laws that require doctors to perform repeat c-sections on women, even if it's unwarranted, but it's hard to find doctors who will do it and from what I hear and read, even harder to persist once you're actually in the situation. That's the situation I face whenever I get pregnant with #2.




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Registered: 10-11-2005
Fri, 02-06-2009 - 4:54pm

>Unbelievable!<

Yes it is, in 1981 when my middle dd was born I was 22 and wanted my tubes tied the Dr refused to do it~~I ended up 5 years later with a 3rd dd that my xh wanted me to abort, only then was I able to get my tubes tied. And by the way I still got pregnant two more times after that! My two sets of grandparent had 15/12 children, so I come from very fertile people. It took me having a partial hysterectomy to stop becoming pregnant.

~Sam

~~Sam stitches well with others, runs with scissors in her pocket. Cheerful and stupid.