DNA & Child support

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 4:33pm
Say a single woman goes in for Donor Insem. She's financially stable and wants a baby.....few years later she falls ill and can no longer work/
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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 2:54am

Well, I don't have any experience myself with regards to DI... But, I did find this info while searching on-line, and I found it interesting.


http://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/sperm-donor-parental-rightsobligations.html


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The legal rights of an egg or sperm donor are a very contentious subject, with almost no two courts agreeing on the answer.


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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 11:00am

Absolutely not.

A while ago, the law here changed re sperm donors and now allows the children thus created to access details of their 'fathers'. The result has been a severe drop in sperm donations, resulting in a fairly serious problem for the assisted-fertility world. How much worse would that be if men could be held financially responsible for what they put in a cup?

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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 1:46pm
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Absolutely not.


A while ago, the law here changed re sperm donors and now allows the children thus created to access details of their 'fathers'. The result has been a severe drop in sperm donations, resulting in a fairly serious problem for the assisted-fertility world. How much worse would that be if men could be held financially responsible for what they put in a cup >>


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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 2:05pm

"Ok so why should a man who absolutely consented to a pregnancy ( by donating his sperm with the intent to get a woman pregnant) NOT be held financially responsible , but a man who didn't consent to pregnany (doing it the *old fashioned* way) be held responsible for a child he ( potentially) didn't even want?

( for the record I'm not saying I believe that's that way it should be....just wanting others takes on why one is acceptable, and the other isn't)."

You raise a very good and valid point....although, I do believe that when a man, or woman donates their egg or sperm they also sign a form releasing all legal and parental rights if any children are born of their donation...and I wonder if the person receiving the donation doesn't have to sign a release relinquishing the donor of any legal/parental responibilities?

As for the children being able to find their donor...I have very mixed feelings about that...I can understand why they would want to find them...in the same way that adoptees want to find their biological parents...but in some way...this is so different...there was never any physical connection with a donor...it just seems different and I wonder what they expect when they find and/or meet their donor/parent? I can see how the child would be set up for many disappointments and hurts.

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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 2:39pm
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As for the children being able to find their donor...I have very mixed feelings about that...I can understand why they would want to find them...in the same way that adoptees want to find their biological parents...but in some way...this is so different...there was never any physical connection with a donor...it just seems different and I wonder what they expect when they find and/or meet their donor/parent? I can see how the child would be set up for many disappointments and hurts.>>


I don't *really* see any difference in physical connection from the child's POV

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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 2:57pm

"I don't *really* see any difference in physical connection from the child's POV ( as in the child doesn't remember being in the womb, what thier mother looked like,etc.....)...and it's probably equal for a SD father VS a birth father...and a child could have just as much disappointment meeting bio/birth parents."

While I agree with you that both children from a sperm donor and from a birth father who haven't been in their lives can be equally hurt or disappointed, there is the obvious message from a sperm donor that when he donated his sperm at the sperm bank he *knew* that most likely a child would be created from his DNA, or bloodline, and that child would not know him and vice versa, he would not know that child and he signed paperwork saying he was ok with that...whereas a "regular" birth father's sole intention wasn't to donate his "seed" to make somebody a parent of his child....and then have that child grow up not knowing who his biological father was.

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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 3:12pm

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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 3:38pm

"Understood...but with todays "sibling registry" and such a DI donor * knows* a child might come looking for him...where if a *regular* father wasn't even aware a pregnancy occured and then suddenly this child finds him I could see that child being more disappointed if that father reacts unfavorably.
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Those are also good points. With the sibling registry, does that allow for the father's identity to be revealed? I've seen that on shows like Dateline where families do go to the sibling registry and find siblings, but the sperm donor has to either go to the registry also or put himself on the registry...everyone has to participate willingly for everyone to be found or acknowledged. Wow, did "they" really think this through when the sperm banks were opened? Did they think it through to the point that siblings could end up marrying siblings?

Oh, did any of you see the show on the sperm bank that only accepts "genius" donors? That was the one I saw where they had the sibling registry....it was very interesting.

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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 4:46pm
what's a sibling registry?
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Thu, 06-21-2007 - 5:01pm

quote: I've seen that on shows like Dateline where families do go to the sibling registry and find siblings, but the sperm donor has to either go to the registry also or put himself on the registry...everyone has to participate willingly for everyone to be found or acknowledged. Wow, did "they" really think this through when the sperm banks were opened? Did they think it through to the point that siblings could end up marrying siblings?

this is on eof the main reasons i do not support donor sperm or eggs.

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