I feel the exact same way.
I think that's probably the case. I have my own crazy belief that a majority of women do actually regret having and raising children. But, it's one of those "Deny! Deny! Deny!" kind of things...
Like, I know that over-all, I don't regret having my kids. However, it took me 3 years after giving birth the first time to finally be told that some of the feelings I have IRT motherhood ARE normal, and okay. I was ashamed to admit to anyone else that I resent my kids sometimes... That, I resent certain aspects of motherhood in general. And, that even though I LOVE my kids, I don't always LIKE them. And, there's some aspects of having kids that I regret...
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"Most women who regret having kids are ashamed to admit it, IMO."
I've sensed it occasionally from some women on my PG. They'd never admit to it, and I'd never ask them, of course.
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"I can imagine that most new mums who haven't slept for 6 mos have the occasional feeling of regret, lol! "
It's very sad. But if they're asking women whose babies are very young, they may be getting a skewed figure. I can imagine that most new mums who haven't slept for 6 mos have the occasional feeling of regret, lol!
<I'd like to see some sort of statistical report of the converse. How many women who have/had children later regret it later.>
You might be able to use the numbers of women giving children up for adoption as a rough indicator, but I don't think you'd ever get an accurate figure. Most women who regret having kids are ashamed to admit it, IMO.
There was something on the Today show the other day about how people with children report being less satisfied with their lives than people without them. They attributed this to unmet expectations from their spouses, retirements and careers. I dont agree, but then my daughter is only a month old and i've only ever wanted to have a child my whole life, so i cant imagine being unhappy with that choice.
Then again the retirement thing makes sense. I read about that in Money Magazine a while ago too. how women who are sahm do not have the retirements saved up that others do, and with the divorce rate being what it is, they cant rely on their husband's either. Interesting....