does anyone know??

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does anyone know??
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Sat, 07-19-2008 - 1:47pm
does anyone here know the statistics that out of all the women who get abortion, how many regret it later?
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Registered: 10-20-2007
In reply to: ms7652
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 7:59pm

There was something on the Today show the other day about how people with children report being less satisfied with their lives than people without them. They attributed this to unmet expectations from their spouses, retirements and careers. I dont agree, but then my daughter is only a month old and i've only ever wanted to have a child my whole life, so i cant imagine being unhappy with that choice.

Then again the retirement thing makes sense. I read about that in Money Magazine a while ago too. how women who are sahm do not have the retirements saved up that others do, and with the divorce rate being what it is, they cant rely on their husband's either. Interesting....

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In reply to: ms7652
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 4:56am

<I'd like to see some sort of statistical report of the converse. How many women who have/had children later regret it later.>


You might be able to use the numbers of women giving children up for adoption as a rough indicator, but I don't think you'd ever get an accurate figure. Most women who regret having kids are ashamed to admit it, IMO.


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In reply to: ms7652
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 4:59am

It's very sad. But if they're asking women whose babies are very young, they may be getting a skewed figure. I can imagine that most new mums who haven't slept for 6 mos have the occasional feeling of regret, lol!


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In reply to: ms7652
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 12:24pm

"I can imagine that most new mums who haven't slept for 6 mos have the occasional feeling of regret, lol! "


Good point.

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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 6:48pm

"Most women who regret having kids are ashamed to admit it, IMO."

I've sensed it occasionally from some women on my PG. They'd never admit to it, and I'd never ask them, of course.

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Registered: 04-03-2005
In reply to: ms7652
Mon, 07-28-2008 - 8:19pm

I think that's probably the case. I have my own crazy belief that a majority of women do actually regret having and raising children. But, it's one of those "Deny! Deny! Deny!" kind of things...


Like, I know that over-all, I don't regret having my kids. However, it took me 3 years after giving birth the first time to finally be told that some of the feelings I have IRT motherhood ARE normal, and okay. I was ashamed to admit to anyone else that I resent my kids sometimes... That, I resent certain aspects of motherhood in general. And, that even though I LOVE my kids, I don't always LIKE them. And, there's some aspects of having kids that I regret...


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In reply to: ms7652
Tue, 07-29-2008 - 10:36am

I feel the exact same way.

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Registered: 04-19-2006
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Tue, 07-29-2008 - 12:17pm
I can agree with that. I have always been rather candid but I find it interesting how more people are surprised by the fact that I ADMIT to the feelings I have than by the fact that I have them. I don't regret my kids at all but I also don't harbor any illusions about the sun shining out of their butts or pretend it is all sunshine and lollipops for me

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Tue, 07-29-2008 - 6:41pm
I can very honestly say that when my daughter was a newborn I did not regret the decision to have her.

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