Duggars have obituary and memorial service for 16 week stillborn baby- WDYT?
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Duggars have obituary and memorial service for 16 week stillborn baby- WDYT?
| Wed, 12-14-2011 - 2:14pm |
Following the tragic stillbirth of their 16 week (gestational age) daughter, the Duggars put out an obituaryand announced plans to hold a memorial service.
Some people are saying this is going a bit too far since they've never before seen an obituary for a baby at such a young gestational age. Others say the baby was a part of their family and the Duggars have a right to mourn however they like.
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I lost a baby (boy) at 16 weeks. It was devastating. While I find the service and obituary a bit odd and I wouldn't have done it, if it makes them feel better then
While it may be a bit unusual, count me in as one who feels it's their right to mourn in their own way. If they find even a small amount of comfort in dealing with their grief by acknowleding their child's existance in publishing an obituary and holding a memorial service, what right does anyone have to object? Whether others consider it a still birth or a miscarriage is a moot point, in my opinion.
I think it's a little over the top. But, isn't everything they do a little over the top? I was personally shocked that after their last experience they would go ahead with another pregnancy, but if they don't use birth control then I guess that's what happens.
While I imagine having a miscarriage is a devastating feeling, having a obituary for a fetus isn't something I would do.
With regards to the topic, if it helps her grieve her loss, than so be it. They might think it will be healing for their children. In their eyes, the younger ones probably can't distinguish the difference in how old the fetus was, and they might be doing it to help them find some closure also.
Did anyone see that they had photos at the memorial service?
I agree. That smiling group shot around the casket - tasteless and proves my theory that it's all for show and limelight. Ugh.
I've miscarried myself and I would never think of doing any of this. ANY of it. And the comments I've seen (not here) about how in the Victorian error people did this - NOT OF FETUSES.