To elemkaye: I'll BRING IT
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|Fri, 11-14-2003 - 1:41pm|
For starters, I'll show you one...Me. I am both materially successful AND completely comfortable in my skin. I love myself unconditionally and have unlimited respect for myself and others. Do I have regrets? Yes. Have I made mistakes? Yes. Who are you to say that women who have abortions lack the ability to ever love themselves???
My decision to terminate my pg was based on my childhood experience and what I knew at that time. What I knew was that I grew up in a drug infested neighborhood. A crackhouse. Without food at times, dirty water, no clothes...just the worst. I saw prostitution, rape, murder and drug use. I worked my ass off through my first 2 years of college to ensure that I, nor my children, would never go back. When I discovered that I was pregnant in my sophomore year...I faced a choice. I had not completed school and had nothing. I was not about to bring my child into a world with nothing...You say that a child should feel what it was meant to feel...well there are somethings in this world that no one should have to "feel." My decision to terminate was not a selfish choice..I wanted that child, but I did not want the child to grow up like I did. I was thinking more of the child than you may think. Also FYI, I used birth control, correctly, and it FAILED. So I was not irresponsible. And for those of you who would say that you should not have sex if you can't handle a child...Does that mean that poor women should live their entire lives w/o sex? I took the necessary steps to prevent a pregnancy, but it happened.
Women who have abortions are not evil people, who would throw their born babies into a dumpster or their elderly parents into a fire....Abortions are not the result of evil, selfish women..they are partially the result of the failure of our society to take care of women and children. Don't get me wrong, some women use abortions as birth control and don't give them a second thought. But there are some women, like myself, who simply lacked the resources to raise a child, and are unaware of the help that is available.
Believe it or not, I am not pro-abortion...I would never advise someone to have an abortion. But I don't think that you are qualified to make general statements about people that you know nothing about. You say that you want to stop personal mud slinging on this board, but the above statement is nothing but a jab at any woman on this board who has had an abortion.
ANYONE, and I do mean anyone, no matter what you have done has the ability to love themselves and others. People make mistakes, even big ones everyday. I did - but it doesn't mean that I can't come to terms with it and have a stable self-image. And I have...