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Registered: 06-17-2008
GAH!
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Fri, 09-12-2008 - 2:12pm

I sometimes lurk on boards that are not debate boards where the posters are all like-minded and have an opposite POV than I do.

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Registered: 06-17-2008
In reply to: badwickedzoot
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 12:33pm

Respectfully, IVillage is not the only online community with discussion boards and I've just re-read the whole thread and neither I, nor anyone else as far as I can tell, specifically mentioned any IV boards.


I appreciate the reminder but I'm well aware of the TOS here, hence the generality because I *do* read and post in other communities.


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Registered: 04-21-2008
In reply to: badwickedzoot
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 12:04pm

Hi all,


I just want to remind everyone that, although we encourage discussions about opinions and feelings, posting negatively about other boards in our community is not permitted.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2008
In reply to: badwickedzoot
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 10:06am

That's *exactly* what I was talking about.

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Registered: 04-19-2006
In reply to: badwickedzoot
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 9:07am
OMG I accidentally stumbled on a board the other day (looking at something I actually cared about) and found a huge rant about how atheist are immoral and all that jazz. OMG the back clapping that is produced astounded me as on a debate board a comment like that would get you shredded. I almost replied YIKES

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Registered: 04-19-2006
In reply to: badwickedzoot
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 2:32pm
I have found a few but not many. My child care provider board (that I never seem to get to anymore) was a great resource to bounce ideas and occasionally vent when I child or 5 were driving me nuts. I also really like my eating disorder support board because it is hard to find people IRL who can relate to that. The TTC board was a bit harder for me because of all the hormones and I don't mind EC clubs except they get mad when I debate IN THE DEBATE FOLDER it doesn't matter how many times I tell them I am not attacking them I just think they are wrong and will continue to do so until they offer me some verifiable facts they get all huffy and offended and I refuse to apologize. I LOL at the ones who tell me I am not interested in debate just in being mean. Geeze if I wasn't interested in Debate why woudl I spend all my time on debate boards?

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Registered: 08-31-2004
In reply to: badwickedzoot
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 1:51pm

Fair enough :o) Life doesn't have to be all debate. I personally have yet to come across a support board that I found useful, but each to her own. As I said in an earlier post, it's good that they're there for the people who find them helpful.

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Registered: 06-17-2007
In reply to: badwickedzoot
Sun, 09-21-2008 - 4:52pm

"I think though that people go to support boards for a very specific thing - exactly that unquestioning nodding-dog assent and 'support' that bothers you and I so much."

Speaking as the very content CL of a support board, I have to say that's a pretty broad generalization. Perhaps you may be generally accurate IRT support boards based on an action rather than a state of being (e.g. a TTC board vs. an EC or a PG), but I don't know that it's generally the case overall.

Here are my thoughts:

1. Support boards are for commiseration, advice, support, and discussion. We have a debate section and debates are conducted there. Otherwise, it's not as though there's never any dissenting opinions. For heaven's sake, there's over 100 of us; there's just no way we could all agree on everything. It's just that, when it's not in the debate section, it's usually prefaced with "this has been my experience..." or "this is the way I see it..."

2. I don't want everything I post to be debated. When I posted on my PG about Elizabeth waking up four times last night (she usually wakes up once), I really don't want someone to tell me that I'm full of crap thinking that I've got it hard and just wait until I've got two kids, etc. Although that could always happen on a support board, we try to discourage it. Similarly, when I posted to the DYK thread there about my grandmother dying and feeling weird being asked to speak at her funeral for a church I no longer attend nor believe in, it would not have been appropriate (nor appreciated) to have someone question me endlessly about why I would cave to pressure from my relatives. As you know, on debate boards, anything you post is up for discussion, including your own personal anecdotes.

3. I like having a group of women who have something in common with me. IRL, the vast majority of people I associate with are either far ahead of me (with much older children, finished post-baccalaureate education and established careers) or far behind me (still in school, maybe even still living with mom and dad). It's nice to have a group of people whose babies are the same age as Elizabeth, and are going through much of the same things.

I love debate boards, but I also love support boards and they each have their place. I don't love the kind of head-bobbing that does happen a lot, but the other support and advice is nice.

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Registered: 08-31-2007
In reply to: badwickedzoot
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 1:43am

I'm kind of new to the debate boards, but love reading them. It's nice to know that people have different opinions- that they are actually real people, in other words.


I think the thing is, in matters like abortion, that their stances come from the heart sometimes, so no matter what facts there are out there, they are going to hold their position. It doesn't necessarily make them bull-headed, just strong in their convictions. It's when they take the position that it's their job to convince the world that their choice is the only right one that I start rolling my eyes. I mean, ignorance is bliss, but only to the ignorant.


By the way, I am Pro-Choice and Pro-Margarita :)

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Registered: 01-07-2004
In reply to: badwickedzoot
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 3:46pm
lol lol lol. theres a girl i work with who has said more than once "are you really that stupid?? how do you get through the day being that dumb?" but people do. how is a mystery to me too, but yeah. i like debate boards because i like when people speak their minds. i lurk on other boards and am a regular poster on a bunch too...but i really like getting in on the debates. this coworker/friend of mine-we have discussions all the time-sometimes about issues i read on the debate boards (lol) and she doesnt agree with me everytime. and i have changed her pov's sometimes and she has changed mne. or sometimes we agree to disagree and thats the end. but i feel like you do too-are you really that dumb??? dont you disagree with ANYTHING she just said? ANYTHING at all?? are that much of a sheep???
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Registered: 03-20-2005
In reply to: badwickedzoot
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 9:45am

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