having the baby can be "selfish", too

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having the baby can be "selfish", too
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Fri, 09-25-2009 - 9:57am

An argument that we hear from the PL side quite a bit is how abortion is a selfish act. The woman is not considering the life of the potential child, but rather how pregnancy/childbirth will affect *her*.


I wanted to visit/discuss the other side of the coin.


Sometimes - more often than we like to think - having the baby, and keeping it, is the "selfish" choice. As an adult woman, I have seen this scenario to many times to count - there are thousands of selfish reasons to keep a child you can't care for, IMO.


And I'm heading off the adoption argument here, as well. Sure, in a perfect world, all unwanted pregnancies would result in a healthy, full term newborn being adopted by a wonderful family. But how often does that scenario actually take place? How many women do you know who can actually go through with it? The answer is not many. And thusly, sadly, there are unwanted babies born every day, who grow up to be unwanted children, and not properly cared for.


Anyhow, IMHO, it is far more selfish to bring a child into the world that you never wanted in the first place. Thoughts?

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Registered: 10-18-2009

really really,' to all of the above.


disregarding the fact that the majority of abortions are not because

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Registered: 10-18-2009

Welcome back!

You didn't answer my question :(

"I gather then that you would never use or advocate for the use of hormonal birth control, which can also end the life of a z/e/f?"

I'm interested in where you draw the line, because so many condemn abortion while killing early life themselves (which gets kind of old).

kate-in-costume

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>>disregarding the fact that the majority of abortions are not because young girls around 'the age' of 9 hav been wrongfully abused, i truly and firmly believe that all abortions are wrong. I have this stance for a myriad of reasons, where shall i begin?<<

How about with explaining how a dead uterus can gestate a baby? I aborted an ectopic pregnancy a few years ago and had I not I woudl have died. I came pretty close anyways. In that case not only would my born child have been without a brother/sister he would have been motherless as well.

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And second and third everyone else. Begin where ever you like.
No, most abortions aren't for victims of rape or incest, but the question remains: Should there be allowances for those victims?

Since About 60% of abortions are obtained by women who have one or more children, are you saying that the woman doesn't really have the cognitive ability to understand what her choices are, and what they mean to her?

Since the abortion rate among women living below the federal poverty level ($9,570 for a single woman with no children) is more than four times that of women above 300% of the poverty level (44 vs. 10 abortions per 1,000 women). This is partly because the rate of unintended pregnancies among poor women (below 100% of poverty) is nearly four times that of women above 200% of poverty* (112 vs. 29 per 1,000 women.

Are you suggesting that these women should remain pregnant, and

a) be unable to care for their offspring, without help from an already overloaded system?

OR

b) simply be an incubator for those unable to reproduce?

Kristy

"The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."
~Albert Einstein

"The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift." ~Albert Einstein

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