Hiding pregnancy

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Registered: 12-03-2005
Hiding pregnancy
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 9:53am
Police: Arizona Woman Drowned Her Newborn to Hide Pregnancy From Husband

Wednesday, May 02, 2007



~~~Ever mind the rule of three, Three times what thou givest returns to thee..This lesson well thou must learn. Thee only gets what thou doest earn.~~~~

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Registered: 03-20-2005
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 10:30am

Panicked and desperate people commit desperate acts. People like this, I believe, think *in the moment* and do not take into account *at the moment* of the act(s) what the legal repercussions will be. Essentially, their minds are on *automatic drive*. They may even be disassociated from themselves while committing the act(s). It is only afterwards, when they come back to their senses, that they see the enormity of the consequences of their action(s). And try to hide whatever they've done.

Not just pg women who want to hide their pgs, but also men.

The case of the husband who strangled his wife and cut up her body into parts at his family's tool-and-die shop and then placed the body parts in several areas within a park near his home happened in my state. (There was enormous coverage of it here.) I highly doubt that this husband was even thinking of his two children and the effects of his actions on their lives while he was choking his wife and dismembering her and strewing her body parts around a park (i.e. hiding his actions). He was thinking of himself only at the time of the strangulation and it was afterwards, after coming back to his senses, (which in of itself is an oxymoron) did he realize the gravity of his situation. That;s why he panicked and cut her up so no one would find her. (or so he thought)

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Registered: 01-07-2007
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 10:34am

Ugh, so sad. I hate it when things like this happen.

The story that kills me the most was of the mother who took her children outside to the garden, one by one (I believe there were 3) and smashed their skulls in with a rock because God told her to.

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 11:14am

The story is sad. In one paragraph it states she didn't know she was pregnant until right before giving brth. Than it says she was trying to hide the pregnancy?

She seems like a woman who is desperate b/c she cheated on her dh and didn't want to get caught.

The whole thing is sad.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2007
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 11:20am

I noticed that, too.

I'm pregnant for the first time right now, but after having 3 kids (I think that's how many she had) how could you not know at all you were pregnant.

Lord knows I'm VERY aware and have been since I was 6 weeks! Lol.

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Registered: 02-28-2007
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 11:26am

And not only that, but how could you hide a pregnancy from your husband? I mean my dh could tell some of the changes in my body very early on, even in my first pregnancy. Of course if he hadn't known I was pregnant maybe he wouldn't have noticed some of those things until later.
With each of my 3 kids, if I laid against his back at night to sleep, he could sometimes feel the babies kicking him in the back!

Sad story.


iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 11:39am

I think she knew it but was afraid of telling her dh.

It seems too out there that she wouldn't know. I understand maybe not knowing for a few months(if you are irregular, overweight, etc) but to not know until labor seems unlikely.