I saved a baby =)

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I saved a baby =)
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Wed, 04-02-2008 - 3:23pm

A friend of mine recently found out she was pregnant and she is still completing University. None the less, she was really frightened, hadn't told anyone and was debated an abortion and came to me seeing that I am a Mommy and wanted to see what I thought, and if I was afriad too when I got pregnant.


I spent a few HOURS writing to her about everything I could since the day I found out I was pregnant, everything I could think of - and I told her if she still ahd doubts to place the baby rather than terminate the pregnancy.


She decided that she would make the decision to either place the baby or keep it based on the people in her life and their reactions. Well, since she has discussed everything etc and she is keeping the baby. I feel like I had a part in saving her child, and I just feel so proud. Now, even if she does decide she is not ready for the baby at least she is open to the idea of adoption.


Just wanted to share! :)

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Registered: 02-04-2008
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 3:51pm

I think what you did was wonderful.

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Registered: 04-19-2006
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 3:53pm
I would agree as long as her help does not stop once the baby is done gestating.




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Registered: 09-12-2005
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 4:00pm

Wow.


I really hope that when she has this baby you are going to continue to help her since you think you talked her into gestating the pregnancy.

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Registered: 01-15-2008
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 10:27pm
And I am sure that you will help her financially, physically and emotionally throughout her child's life.
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Registered: 02-04-2008
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 12:09am
Why would she do that?

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 12:41am

Hmm, when I read goddess_musiclover's post, no where did I get the message that she was saying directly or implied, "BAD PL woman for helping a woman feel better about giving life instead of offering the drive to the clinic."

"It is right to be contented with what we have, but never with what we are."

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Registered: 10-17-2006
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 1:06am

Yes :)

 

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Thu, 04-03-2008 - 7:28am

And I will add this:

If that gestation or delivery should result in any short or long term problems for either the woman or the child, will the OP feel the same pride, duty and responsibility for the outcome as she does now?

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Registered: 02-04-2008
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 8:17am

Let me ask this - if her advice and counsil were to abort - would she be responsible for paying for the abortion, transportation, cost of any after proceedures if there should be any consequences- therapy should she have mental/emotional trauma afterward - or providing a child for her should she never be able to produce again?


Of course, AS A FRIEND, she should be their for her throughout the pregnancy and for the entire duration of their friendship.

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Registered: 09-18-2006
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 8:20am

LOL No offense but I think you're all thinking a little too deep into this! I guess thats a debate board, I have never posted on one.


Okay - NO, Im not going to help her raise her baby. As a PP said - I didn't make the baby. And if something goes wrong in the pregnancy thats not my fault - that comment I thought was absurd! How am I supposed to predict when someone has an unhealthy pregnancy?! Thats like someone telling me early on in my pregnancy that I should have the baby aborted because "I might go overdue and have a horrible labour, with LOTS of stitches" which I did.. I'd go thru 3295 times worse a labour to have my son. Anyways thats neither here nor there, but seriously.. should my DH be blamed for me having a rough pregnancy? "Hey man, you shouldn't have gotten her pregnant - now look what she's going thru." lmao.


Anyways, maybe I missed a few details. This girl WANTS kids, she WANTS to be a Mom. She was AFRAID when she found out she was pregnant and came to me asking me if it was NORMAL to feel that way.


And she has decided that she will keep the baby and if she changed her mind, at least I haveopened her mind to adoption so that an other family can feel the same love for a child as I do my son.

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