An interesting thought I had ...

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2005
An interesting thought I had ...
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Fri, 09-19-2008 - 6:33pm

As I drove home this evening, this scenario occurred to me, so I thought I would put it out there.


A 14 year old girl becomes pregnant by a 15 year old boy (so no statuatory rape issue based on their ages).


The sex was "pseudo-consentual."

 


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Registered: 10-14-2007
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 6:49pm

So in the latter case mom is forcing her to carry the baby and then put it up for adoption? Is that what you're saying?

I think both are equally cruddy. To force a human being to carry a child to term and then give it up, both against her will...that's just psychologically damaging. I know a girl who recently gave her baby up for adoption. She's 22. And she's heartbroken over it. Imagine how much more grief would occur if one was forced to give the baby up. Or how horrible it would be to be forced to carry a baby you don't want. To put your daughter through a pregnancy at that age...

It's sickening.




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Registered: 11-29-2005
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 7:04pm
Hi Gina!!

 


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Registered: 10-14-2007
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 7:15pm
Hiya! It's slow on the other boards so...here I am! My interest in this topic is renewed with all the hype about Palin...



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Registered: 04-19-2006
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 7:15pm

Are you stalking me??

Nice to see you


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Fri, 09-19-2008 - 7:16pm
haha no no! I was surprised to see so many people from the other board over here too. It's kind of nice though, to see familiar faces all around the village.



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Registered: 04-15-2006
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 7:30pm
I find both situations tragic. This is one of the reasons I'm strongly against parental consent.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 7:39pm

Parental consent does not means that the girl HAS to get the abortion. It just means that she has the parent's consent (permission). My understanding is that both the parent and the girl must provide consent. I might be wrong about that, though.

So in the first situation, even if the parent has consented, the girl can still decline.

In the second situation, even if the girl consents to abortion, she cannot have one without the parent's consent. And that would just be awful.

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Registered: 04-15-2006
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 7:47pm

"Parental consent does not means that the girl HAS to get the abortion. It just means that she has the parent's consent (permission). My understanding is that both the parent and the girl must provide consent. I might be wrong about that, though."

I'm not sure about that either, but I think you're right. However, another frustrating thing is that parents have the ability to threaten and for lack of a better word blackmail their children into making the decision that they WANT them to make. Most parents, hopefully, would not choose this path, but I've heard quite a few situations that have definately been an abuse of power.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 9:22pm

Exactly. Even if the girl cannot legally be forced to abort, her parents can very effectively coerce her into having one (or not having one).

Personally, I feel that in many cases involving minors, having to tell your parents about it negates a huge part of having an abortion in the first place. The whole point is to try to make things as though the pregnancy never happened. Even if I had had an abortion as a minor and was perfectly at peace with my decision, my parents would have NEVER let me live it down. It would have ruined my relationship with them and made my life miserable, all due to parental consent laws (*not* the abortion itself).

I think everyone should have to meet with a counselor to discuss options before having the procedure, just to ensure that people are fully informed of them, but beyond that I think it's absolutely nobody's business if she wants an abortion. If she's old enough to be pregnant, she's old enough to decide if she wants to *not* be pregnant.

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Registered: 03-22-2008
Fri, 09-19-2008 - 9:52pm

Great scenarios.

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