the mother's right

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the mother's right
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Tue, 05-01-2007 - 8:32pm
I know this may sound very odd to some of you and please dont flame me to death but I wanted to know about what people thought about the mothers rights to the fetus. Do you think the mother has any right to the fetus/baby after the abortion??? Should she be allowed to have the remains to have a funeral what ever she sees fit for the situation if she wishes??? Of course i dont think this should be a law that even women most be given her fetuses remains but if she wants them should she be allowed to have them??? And should she as the mother get to pick what type of abortion she has...I knwo this may seem like an odd question but some women who abort want to hold there child after and say goodbye, but the chocie they are usually given is to have a D&E which makes this imnpossible....Sorry if this upsets anyone

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Tue, 05-01-2007 - 9:02pm

Wow, what an interesting question. My first reaction is...hwy? Why would you want a funeral for something like that? It just seems creepy.

My second reaciton is that I have never gone through this and yes a woman should have a right to bury the remains of her aborted baby.

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Registered: 07-24-2006
Tue, 05-01-2007 - 11:07pm
A woman i used to work with had a miscarriage... quiet a bit different of a situation, i know. She had her baby cremated and has the ashes and pictures the hospital took of her baby in a shoe box in her closet. I don't see why a woman who has an abortion couldn't do that.
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Registered: 08-18-2006
Tue, 05-01-2007 - 11:21pm
Usually they are trying to get you in and out as soon as possible and many women are scared to ask....i know I was i managed to tell them I had to see her to say goodbye but nothign after that.. thats why i think it should be an option, just like seeing the u/s
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Registered: 10-17-2006
Wed, 05-02-2007 - 1:31am
It might have been good for me to have been able to

 

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Wed, 05-02-2007 - 6:06am

I understand her question but I guess I do not get why with an abortion would you want to see the remains.

I had a couple of miscarriages (at around8 weeks). It was basically a lot of blood clots, etc. I had it at home with some cramping. I was upset (we were doing fertility treatments by than) but I did not want to bury what came out.

Legally, I think everyone should be asked.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-02-2007 - 6:44am
We just went through this. My sil was pregnant--very excited, very wanted pregnancy. Long story short, after an ultrasound (which showed some anomolies) she had an amnio and found that her fetus had severe trisomy 18. Due to missing/misplaced organs, the fetus would not have survived birth (if it even lived that long). After many prayers, tears, discussions with her husband, and a consultation with her priest, she had an abortion. I do not know the procedure that was used. They were able to hold the baby after it was over.The hospital released the body and we attended the funeral. My sil was devastated (as were we all). It was, however, the best decision that she could have made for herself. She is healing and would like to get pregnant again (after genetic testing)if it is feasible.
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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 05-02-2007 - 9:48am

I'm not sure. Are women given the choice to see or take home other parts that are taken out of their body? I know that my uncle used to have some kidney stones in a jar but I doubt that they'd give you your gallbladder.

I would think that Pro Choice organizations would be against this idea.

edited to add, since it's a medical decision, I don't think that a woman should be able to choose how the procedure is done. The doctor should use his/her medical knowledge to perform the procedure that will cause the least risk to the woman.

I also find the title of this OP a little interesting. Most PCers don't use the term mother when referring to the woman.




Edited 5/2/2007 9:53 am ET by dj1986
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Registered: 01-07-2007
Wed, 05-02-2007 - 9:51am

"I would think that Pro Choice organizations would be against this idea."

Why?

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 05-02-2007 - 10:12am

Because doing so would acknowledge that the fetus is something more than a group of cells.

It was pointed out in a different thread I believe, that they do not support the Unborn Victims Act because it assigns personhood to a fetus.

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Registered: 07-18-2004
Wed, 05-02-2007 - 10:14am

Hmmm. Interesting question. It's hard to put myself in that position, never having aborted or miscarried. I guess I would say that legally, they should be asked.

Angie

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