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|Tue, 09-16-2008 - 5:28pm|
I recently lost my little girl after 17 weeks of pregnancy. I began to miscarry, but we decided that it would be in my best interest to speed it along and terminate before going through a full blown miscarriage.
My daughter had a cystic hygroma and was diagnosed with Turner Syndrome. We were given the option to terminate, but I had decided to do some research before making a final decision. Had she not decided for me, I would have terminated. There were a lot of factors involved with my health, and I was not willing to put my life in jeopardy to MAYBE deliver a sick baby.
What PL's don't understand is that MY health and MY body are put at risk when you have an at risk or complicated pregnancy. They won't be the ones to carry the child, they won't be the ones suffering from illness after illness, and they won't be the ones delivering a stillborn child. So it is EASY for them to decide what is best. I also highly doubt they would be the ones to step up and care for a high needs child - financially and physically. Everyone's situation is different. I do not condone using abortion as a method of birth control as some women do. Personally, that makes me sick. But as I said, everyone's situation is different. Some women feel this is best while other women opt for adoption. I often wonder how many of the PL protestors have adopted children, high needs or not. Have they adopted a child born from rape? And if they have, how do they explain that they are a product of HATE?
For me, my decision was difficult, but I felt I had to do what was best for me, for my husband, for my family, and for my child. Yes, TS children can have normal lives, but 98% of those pregnancies do not make it. Children with TS who have mild symptoms have different chromosomes, my daughter was completely missing one which really hurt her chances of survival. She also had the hygroma, which indicated a heart defect. And since I began to miscarry, it seemed as though her heart was the problem. Her heart rate began to slow when I went in the day before the termination. Nothing had been done for me at that point, but the ultrasound did show she was aborting herself.
I am thankful that I was miscarrying and the decision was basically made for me. But to spare her a life of hardship, illness, or to spare me and my husband the experience of delivering a still born baby, I felt termination was best.
No one has the right to decide that for me. No one has the right to determine my health care and how I live my life. I respect their opinion, but they have no right to cram it down my throat and FORCE their beliefs on me. PC people seem to be more level headed and do not behave in such irrational manners. PL seem to be too extreme and volatile. A fetus is not able to live outside the womb and therefore is not public property. It is still part of my body and I decide its fate. Not other people.
My body, my health, my life, my choice...