My transformation

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Fri, 04-27-2007 - 1:11pm

As a child my mom was very heavily into Pro Choice... She would educated me on how it wasn't murder and tell me a few other facts that I later learned were totally warpped into fitting into her discussion.. In 10th grade I gave a speech and essay on being Pro Choice and how abortion wasn't murder.. I cited all my work, including the medical facts I obtained, and was the only person in the grade to recieve an A+ on that assignment. I was once at our state fair and there was a tent there with a banner that said "RIGHT TO LIVE!" and had a group of anti-abortionists gathered who were passing out information on abortion and how adoption is better. I walked over to the tent and literally started a verbally fight with the man on how he needs to mind his own business and let people choose what they do with their bodies and how "conservative assholes" pissed me off. I was as Pro Choice as you can get!

Someone once asked me if I ever wanted children. I said yes and she smiled and said "I'd like to ask your opinion on abortion a few months into your own pregnancy" I basically told her to shut up and that I'd always be Pro Choice.

She couldn't have been more right. Within a matter of weeks my opinion had totally changed. It's only a "blob" when it's not your own "blob". Then it's a baby! I'm completely anti abortion now. It makes me sick to think about abortion anymore. I just want all Pro Choicers to know that I was once like them. Completely Pro Choice! But I later learned that so many of my "Facts" weren't true. I didn't have a full understanding of abortion, even into adulthood. If you want to be Pro Choice that's fine but make sure you really know what you are fighting for. You are basically fighting for the right of a woman to suck a tiny little fetus or embryo out its home because you don't want to deal with the consequence of your actions. I don't see how anyone could fight for that, but each to their own!

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Fri, 04-27-2007 - 1:18pm

quote: She couldn't have been more right.
/end quote

er....not.
maybe for her. maybe for you.
but most assuredly and decisively not for all women, everywhere.

i've had 4 children,and i've miscarried twice.
i remain avidly and vehemently pro choice, and when i saw those early ultrasounds, they still looked like "blobs" to me- even though they were fervently wanted, deliberately conceived and totally planned.
and i won't glorify [pregnancy either. it involves too many risks to force women to remain pregnant and give birth against their will.

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Fri, 04-27-2007 - 1:23pm

"I'm completely anti abortion now"

And that is really great for you and your life. For me and my life I am 2000000% pro choice and I will remain that way until I die. If I got pregnant I would have an abortion and neither you nor anyone else has the right to tell me I can't.

"Choice that's fine but make sure you really know what you are fighting for. You are basically fighting for the right of a woman to suck a tiny little fetus or embryo out its home because you don't want to deal with the consequence of your actions. "

Abortion IS dealing with the consequences of your actions. Just because you do not life it does not mean it is not dealing. I also know what I am fighting for. I am fighting for women to be able to choose what happens to their body and life.

"It makes me sick to think about abortion anymore" Then why are you on an abortion debate board?




Edited 4/27/2007 1:26 pm ET by seirith
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Fri, 04-27-2007 - 2:20pm

Interesting. I was always pro-choice and then became pregnant. I vividly remember the day I realized the ENORMITY of what some people feel they have the right to force on women. The enormity of it and the deep and profound *arrogance* of feeling justified in interfering in the medical choices of another.

Being pregnant solidified, forever, my pro-choice stance. Now I look into the eyes of my strong young daughter and know that I will fight to ensure her physical autonomy is never taken away by the misguided.

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Fri, 04-27-2007 - 2:39pm

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Fri, 04-27-2007 - 2:50pm

Kate

>If you want to be Pro Choice that's fine but make sure you really know what you are fighting for. You are basically fighting for the right of a woman to suck a tiny little fetus or embryo out its home because you don't want to deal with the consequence of your actions. I don't see how anyone could fight for that, but each to their own!<

I've been pregnant 5 times, carried 3 to term & had two miscarries (those two were after my tubes were tied) so I what it's all about~~I've always been pro-choice and I always will be pro-choice. I lost a very sweet loving disable cousin to a illegal abortion back in the late '60s and until it happens to your family, don't come tell me what to do with my body or my life. Because honey I already know what it's all about.

ps I'm a grandmother of two too

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Fri, 04-27-2007 - 9:43pm
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Fri, 04-27-2007 - 11:36pm

WOW! I really enjoyed your post and I agree with you when a person actually becomes pregnant most people really rethink the whole thing and realize it's not a "blob".

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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 3:30am

<<<<<>>>>>>
This was true for me when i got pregnant...she was neevr a blob but my daughter...but i am still pro-chocie

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It goes both ways...a lot of the pro-life "facts" are not true either.

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I fight for it because even though having my abortion caused me so much sadness it was still the best thing i have ever done for my future, my life and my child.

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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 3:45am
I have a child and it's because of that that I'm pro-choice. I know I could never go through that again. But my life doesn't stop just because I can't have another baby.
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Sat, 04-28-2007 - 7:13pm

Kate:

I am the opposite of you. I started out as pro-life. Went to religious schools. *Taught* by them that all life was sacred. Then I started *thinking for myself*.

Have three healthy children. Was never in a position to have to decide whether or not to continue a pg. I have educated myself over the years regarding birth control, pg, and abortion.

I am now and have been for some years, a pro-choice woman. I know what my religion taught me but I have come to the realization that I just *cannot* tell another person how to live their life. I cannot *make* another person live their life the way that I want them to. Even if I think that a fetus is a life.

To me, if I were to tell another woman that she cannot have an abortion, that is the same thing as kidnapping her life. Other women's lives are not mine to control. The one and only life over which I have control is my own.

I have considered all the arguments, looked at all the facts, searched my soul. And, having been on both sides of the fence, I consider the autonomy of the woman is paramount to any other factor.

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