never expected to be in this situation

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never expected to be in this situation
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Fri, 06-01-2007 - 12:32am

I am waiting and hoping for the grand ole time of the month. If I am pregnant than this would be my 4th child in just over 4 years (and my 3rd child concieved while correctly taking the pill). We cannot financially fathom having another child escpecially right now (or in 8 months whatever). But I know that I (personally) could not live with an abortion and could not imagine carrying a baby for 9 months and then giving it up. Not only would it pose a huge financial burden on us, but my body would take a toll I am sure. My first 2 kids are 15 months apart and that was hard enough, felt like I was pregnant forever. My second 2 are 2 years apart (at least that is within the realms of normalacy). If I am pregnant than my current baby and this (possible) baby would be just over 15 months apart again.
My last pregnancy was difficult. Not life threatening or anything, but difficult.

So I am worried and hoping for the wonderful aunt flo.

I know this is a debate board and I might get picked apart for posting a personal story but I am ready for that (or I wouldn't have posted here). I just have really enjoyed this board and there has been some really inteligent debates here. I guess I just wanted to let you all know, and I will be throwing you all a party if my period arrives (or at least throwing you a post).

Everyone have a good day.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 6:26am
Oh my goodness! I, too, hope that 'Aunt Flo' makes a visit....really soon! My boys are 16 months apart. I thought that I was going to lose my mind--I was so busy (plus I had my DD who was in kindergarten, and worked full time when our second son was born). Good Luck--I've got my fingers crossed for you!
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Registered: 04-29-2005
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 9:07am

Since this is a debate board ; ) I'll ask a question.

I know that you said that you personally would never have an abortion but you also said that 2 of your 3 children were conceived while correctly taking the pill. I wonder if you used any additional BC or if you relied only on the BCP which you know didn't work well for you?

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Fri, 06-01-2007 - 9:17am
And I'll answer. My other 2 children concieved on the pill I was on a low dose pill and my doctor told me that it was too low of a dose for me. This pill is a much stronger dose. No I didn't use any other method. With 3 small children in the house, when opportunity finally knocks dh and I take it lol.
So is your point that I am being irresponsible? Because I do not think that I am. I am married, I am using a strong birth control, and if I am pregnant I will suffer the consequences.
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Registered: 04-29-2005
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 9:37am

No, that was not my point at all. It's not for me, or anyone else to decide. It was just a question.

Thanks for the answer.

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Registered: 04-15-2006
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 9:46am

Well, here's hoping for Aunt Flo! When I was on low dose bc I sometimes still ovulated (which is painful so I know when its happening) I knew what my more fertile days were so I would either not have sex on those 3 days, use a condom, or take 2 bc pills the next day. You and your DH just might be one of those couples that needs to get your tubes tied AND a vacetomy. (If you are done having children). My friend is going to do this b/c she is super fertile.

"So I am worried and hoping for the wonderful aunt flo. "

You might just be stressed out. One time I was so worried and stressed about starting that I think I put it off for longer b/c my body didn't want to cooperate.

Good Luck!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 9:56am

(((HUGS)))Hoping AF shows up for you....I once went 3 mos without AF....talk about stressed out....and in the end that's what it ended up being...stress(at least as far as my DR could figure). So no AF doesn't always mean PG. I know what you mean about close pregnancies....my girls are 18 months apart....had Angel survived they would have been even closer! ....at least your not like my friend who had them 11 mos apart!! ;)


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Registered: 04-10-2003
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 11:02am
Sending {{{Auntie Flo vibes}}}} your way!
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Fri, 06-01-2007 - 1:38pm

Sending Flo-ey thoughts your way! I do have a question, but you are under no obligation to answer it because I know others' find it a touchy subject. Is there any way your DH would consider getting a vasectomy?

My father, waaaay back in the early 70's, stepped up to the plate because my Mom had done the work of 3 pregnancies and he felt it was his turn to take on the responsibility so she could go off the pill.

It would simplify things quite a bit, I would think. Again, it is none of my business, just throwing it out there.

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Registered: 02-28-2007
Fri, 06-01-2007 - 3:06pm
Dh will consider getting a vasectomy. Right now we are BROKE and also have no insurance.
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Fri, 06-01-2007 - 10:40pm

My question is: If you feel you would never have an abortion or give a child up for adoption, what do you feel about a child being born into a family that cannot financially handle having that child?

If you say that another child would financially hurt you is it fair to bring a child into the world you can't really afford when you have children in this world to take care of?

Maybe go and buy a home pregnancy test and see if it comes out positive. Either way, sending you tons of aunt flo dust!

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