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Sun, 01-31-2010 - 10:58pm

I've been an occasional lurker here just because I love a good debate, but I rarely get involved because I can get caught up in it and never leave...;) There is a question that I have for all the pro choicers out there.

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Registered: 04-10-2003
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 7:56am

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Actually is IS an abortion. I had two. The medical term is: incomplete spontaneous abortion. I had D&Cs to evacuate the remaining tissue in both cases.

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Thu, 02-04-2010 - 8:00am

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Adoption>>

I find that option entirely unacceptable for me. There is no way in Hades I would willingly gestate the fetal by -product of rape in my body. It WOULD be sucked out, carved out, yanked out- but I assure you, it WOULD be removed by any means necessary. Every woman deserves the option. To deny her is to rape her for 9 more months.

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You are correct. I don't agree with it since this too causes early abortions.>>

Then use another. But ruling out hormonal forms of birth control and IUDs Which also may cause failure of fertilized eggs to implant), removes all of the effective forms of birth control. Don't give me abstinence as the only other option. It is against my religi0on. And NF also violates it as well.
Let's let everyone CHOOSE the method best aligned to their own personal health histories and religious/moral observances, shall we?

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Thu, 02-04-2010 - 8:02am

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!st- no baby til birth.

2nd- ALL of that embryo/fetus is tucked into 100% of HER body. HER choice.
3rd- the other have is a genetic by-product of a violent rapist. I would consider it my CIVIC DUTY to eliminate the evil seed from further propagation ;-) Te propensity to violence may be passed down and I would not be party to that.

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Registered: 12-16-2009
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 9:02am

Sometimes I wonder if any of the people who come by offering adoption as a solution for the offspring of rapists have ever themselves adopted a child of a violent offender. My guess is no.

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Thu, 02-04-2010 - 10:21am

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I think that is a disrespectful and dangerous way to treat a woman who has been raped, and it is likely to lead to poor experiences for the child, as well.

I have a relative who was gang-raped at 14 and became pregnant. With her (very religious Catholic) parents' blessing, she had an abortion. Later in life, due in large part to her traumatic rape, she developed serious mental illness. At age 32, she committed suicide by jumping off a bridge.

Can you imagine being her child? Born to a 14-year-old, the product of gang-rape and of unknown paternity, raised by a mentally-ill young woman, who kills herself while you're still a teenager?

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 10:25am

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That would be my guess as well. They often also let you know that they themselves have never experienced sexual assault, which I think is an equally preposterous situation.

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Thu, 02-04-2010 - 1:32pm

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But that doesn't answer the question.

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Thu, 02-04-2010 - 4:29pm

To be honest, I am constantly surprised (and at the point I shouldn't be, as it seems quite par for the course), at the number of people that seem to jump from pregnancy automatically to adoption or raising a child that results from a completed pregnancy.

The whole concept that in order for adoption or raising a child to commence a pregnancy *must* be completed. Those are *Parenting* options and are only relevant once a pregnancy is complete; they are not *Pregnancy* options.

It's like people think that a) woman is pregnant and then c) woman gives up child for adoption or raises it herself. "B": woman gestates or terminates pregnancy is glaringly missing from the equation.

Heck, if it were that easy - that a woman could go straight from being pregnant to having a born child without actually having to go through *being* pregnant - this *whole* debate would be moot.

I can see it now:
Get pregnant (whether you realize you are or not is irrelevant).
Go to sleep.
Wake up next morning and find a baby in a bassinet next to your bed.
Easy peasy, lemon squeezy!

"It is right to be contented with what we have, but never with what we are."
- James MacKintosh, Scottish Philosopher

"It is right to be contented with what we have, but never with what we are."

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Thu, 02-04-2010 - 4:32pm

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Man, I'd have ten kids if that were possible. Pregnancy is one of the worst things that has ever happened to me! ;O)

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Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 02-04-2010 - 11:04pm

It seems like she just had really bad care.

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