Thank you for explaining all that, it really does make sense to me.
I'm all for someone voicing their own convictions, that's what we do here on a debate board, however I don't appreciate it when I feel I'm being force fed those convictions and/or made to feel *bad* if those convictions are not my own.
I do know you are not advocating elective abortion. :)
You have a very lovely perspective and I find it calming.
"He kept bugging me until I straightforward told him that even if they found something wrong, I would not abort. He said, 'Well, then there is no reason to do the amnio, is there?'"
I definitely would be nervous about having an amnio myself, as I know the risks involved. But seriously, abortion choice is not the only reason to do an amnio. What was your doctor thinking? DH's aunt got pregnant with a surprise baby in her mid-40s. She got an amnio, and learned that something was terribly wrong. Her baby survived (she just turned six), but she has some pretty drastic disabilities. She can mostly walk now and can talk a little, but the seizures she had on the left side of her brain were so frequent and bad that the doctors performed a hemispherectomy on her at four months. Like I said, she can walk, but she drags her right foot behind her and her right hand is mostly useless.
The point is that obviously DH's aunt decided to continue the pregnancy anyway. This child is an absolute doll, but the few months' notice that her mother got were priceless. She was able to learn that she'd never be able to work again (the child will likely need permanent lifetime care), and was able to prepare for the onslaught of a child custody battle she would fight with her ex-husband over her two older children.
This is why I got an AFP, even though I didn't really care about the results. If there was something wrong (there wasn't), I wanted to know ahead of time so I could prepare.
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