Preventing the need for abortion.

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Preventing the need for abortion.
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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 4:39pm

Ok, I think everyone here can agree on one thing: None of us WANT women to abort.

Lori
**Navy Wife to Eddie since Dec 2002**

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 4:53pm

Educate educate educate! Things often go in one ear and out the other, and at that age the facts are being actively diluted by all kinds of weird myths (we can't get pregnant if we are virgins) (we can't pass disease if we only do oral) so repetition is important. Get 'em at home AND at school AND at church AND at whatever other community group the kids participate in. And get 'em before they start experimenting on their own. In my youth (so long ago!) 7-9th grade was okay, but in this day and age of Britney and even preadolescents wearing bikinis (that totally weirds me out). We need to make sure we start before the girls get breast buds - that's the beginning of puberty and it's coming earlier every decade as we get fatter and eat more artificial foods.

Next, provide contraception -and warn people to use two methods because they do fail, especially when used haphazardly or only some of the time. Condoms PLUS birth control, if abstinence can't happen.

Also, warn girls and women what signs of pregnancy are and how to get checked up by their pediatrician or OB so that I can stop hearing stories about women who are 5 months along and unaware.

How can one person help? Start with your own kids, then all their friends and your friends' kids, volunteer with your local PTA or church group or other community organization. And vote passionately. Then find specific activist groups like whatever flavor of pregnancy prevention organization suits you and report for duty - they'll have a list of stuff to do.

And the non-sex answer - empower women to be strong and interested in stuff other than boys. Get them running clubs and working summer jobs that thrill their minds and make them dream of college and life beyond. This will teach them the strength to know how to say "no" and that they deserve to be able to. A little karate class is a good thing, too.

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 4:54pm

Better social programs.

Basically, society and government should support our "future" with the same tenacity as they do "Corporate America/Canada".

I'm sick and tired of the cart being put before the horse. In order to have a healthy society, we need to foster that environment!

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 5:00pm

I 100% agree with you, especially about EDUCATING!!!

Lori
**Navy Wife to Eddie since Dec 2002**

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 5:01pm

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We need better sex ED in schools people need to know why you get pregnant. It is amazing how many girls dont know how their reproductive system works. They need to know where to get birth control and that it is NOT 100% effective, so you should use back ups. I think you should be able to buy the morning after ill at 16, instead of 18. I think we need better health care for teen moms, so they dont have to rely on their parents. I think high schools and colleges should have daycares. This would stop a lot of abortions I think. For a lot of young women they either think they cant finish school with a baby or they cant afford daycare. I think state aid should only be given to people who are doing something with their lives. Like my friend had a baby her junior year of college and she can only make $1,400 a month if she wants to get state assisted daycare, health care and food stamps. But she lives inb a very expensive city and if her parents didn't pay her rent and schooling she would not have ben able to have her baby, she wouldn't have been able to afford it.

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 5:08pm

1) Stop shoving motherhood as an "of course" down the throats of our daughters before they're even old enough to walk well.

2)Start raising our sons to know that pregnancy is AS MUCH their problem as the girl's and that no, they don't have a choice about what happens once the sperm is out of their body.

3)A whole he** of a lot more honesty about sex in discussions with our youth. Stop pretending they stay unsullied until the *parents* are comfortable discussing it. Because if they aren't hearing it from you, they're sure as heck going to hear it elsewhere and who knows what type of info they'll get.

4)Related to 3...give them the truth. NOT what you *want* to be the truth. Don't our kids deserve better than to be lulled into playing Russian Roulette with their health?

5)*Comprehensive* sex ed.

6)Information about and access to birth control AND emergency contraception

7)Emergency contraception available *everywhere*

8)Give both girls and boys the right to say no to sex

9)Stop giving girls the "being nice, looking pretty and having a boyfriend are the most important things" messages...yes, it STILL is being put out there

10)Boys are responsible for their actions, too. Let's make them aware of it.

I could go on but I'm sure others can say it better :)

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 5:11pm

db all 3 of you have great points~~and I love that fact about y'all.

~Sam

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 5:50pm

Better sex education, better social programs, more FUNDING for social programs,

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 6:51pm

Another thought...I wonder if providing more shelter, protection, etc., for women with abusive husbands/boyfriends would help.

Lori
**Navy Wife to Eddie since Dec 2002**

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 7:09pm

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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 8:12pm
Education, better access to better BC, and more education. Its somewhat appalling that we need to jump through so many hoops as young women to *get* good access to BC. I understand some of the reasons why, but better access should be available.

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